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[linkkiller31]

Dear other people reading this i am writing this thread for all the people out there who have givin up on love. I was one of those people for awhile actually for along time. I considered my se;f to be alone for the rest of my life. I know what its like very day to wake up and life to suck completly and to think is this what i am is this what i will always be. Well dont give up hope there is someone out there. There is for everyone i know some of you are like whatever and what not, but its true its not a lie. So dont give up dont get to down in the dumps keep your head up you know. Just dont turn gay cuase you think the opposite sex isnt attractited to you.
Yours truly me

[fantasytiger]

i know exactly how you feel you think thats bad try having your bf of three years use you for a week and then run off to go marry some chick he met over the internet and he had planned this three months in advanced and then tells you he is going to take care of a relative. yeah love is a joke you end up with me you either end up under a car or for some odd reason i become unbarable to be with so you jump states just to get away from me.............

[tempted]

Originally Posted by fantasytiger

i know exactly how you feel you think thats bad try having your bf of three years use you for a week and then run off to go marry some chick he met over the internet and he had planned this three months in advanced and then tells you he is going to take care of a relative. yeah love is a joke you end up with me you either end up under a car or for some odd reason i become unbarable to be with so you jump states just to get away from me.............

OMG Tiger..are you talking about John?..i know this isn't my business..but are you?


And linkkiller31..it's been awhile glad to see you back here..but humm...that whole there's someone out there for everyone may actually be true..but only if you're willing to look for it and take chances..now try being alone for five years because you got hurt really bad in relationships and then think you finally found someone who seemed perfect for you..and have that person tell you, he loves you and that you were everything he wanted, make you believe in it..and then completely crush you..and then a couple of months later that person with who you still managed to stay friends with, tells you he still hasn't gotten over the girl he was with before you came along..making you realise that everything he made you believe in was nothing but a lie...try to imagine how much it hurts and what something like that can do to one's mind..so if you ask me, i give up, i had too many times my heart broken so i think i'll be better off alone..and no, i'm not thinking about turning gay..cause well i do like men a lot..but i'm fine alone...Love sucks much..period.

[Faile]

I've just come out of a two year relationship. I'm not willing to post the exact details of why the breakup happened but suffice to say it wasn't so nice, especially as I'm in counselling at the moment to get rid of my paranoia and insecurity. But the world keeps on spinning and there are other people out there. Love is the most amazing emotion in the world and we will all fall in love again one day, and that day will be amazing.

[Uchiha Sasuke]

I do not know about the whole love game. I fail for such stupid reasons, and I'm getting pretty fed up. The hurt is turning to great. I continuely question the fact if there is someone out there for me. Everyone I am actually attracted to is said to be to far outta my league and such. If thats the case I might as well go gay.

Song for this

The Mayfield Four - Carry on

He Walked Outside her world the other day
She Knew that he would leave eventually
And Like The Rest He Promised Everything
She's heard it all before they never stay

Let your heart be idle so it can never break
And Carry on, carry on so you never have to hurt again
Cause Walking as a loner is like walking with the dead
So Carry on, carry on my friend

I wash away the tears and don't you cry
It hurts like hell now but give it time
And Make this lessoned learned to be your best
Cause Love is not worth the risk and don't forget

Let your heart be idle so it can never break
And Carry on, carry on so you never have to hurt again
Cause Walking as a loner is like walking with the dead
So Carry on, carry on my friend

Let your heart be idle so it can never break
And Carry on, carry on so you never have to hurt again
Cause Walking as a loner is like walking with the dead
So Carry on, carry on my friend

Carry on, carry on, carry on, carry on, carry on, carry on,

I never wanna hurt like that again

No

[Daniel Legge]

I have been with a girl for just over 2 years now, in augest i went to stay with my mum for a while(a week to be exact) and she sed she wanted a break while i was there. When i got back she had changed her mind. Few weeks later and she wants a break again, i very unwillingly agree to it. few days later, she wants me back again.

Few weeks ago she sed she wants a proper break this time, once again i agree, no point fighting it if its what she wants. 23 hours later, she fones me saying she cant do it and wants me back. You may ask why i am still with her, and the answer would be cos i care about her to much to let her go. It may not work out but for now im going to stick with it and see what happens.

Im sure you will all find the right person for you eventually, takes time and paitence to do so, so dont give up.

[Uchiha Sasuke]

Its sooo very hard to believe there is someone out there for you when everything in your life shows you otherwise.

Oh yeah heres a depressing post I put on a different forum

Let me start by saying that I am totally lost. My heart aches soo much for someone but everytime it denies me. I really don't understand this world at all. I do not understand what I should do. I get the feeling every night that I will be alone forever and pretty much cry myself to sleep. I'm still 20 and I know that young but still everyone one of my oppurtunities have been crushed, even though all my female friends say I'm soo attractive and sweet and caring that gets me nowhere. None of them ever approach me with any sign of interest. Which leads me to think its all lies, again destroying me slowly inside.

People tell me to change my sensitive and caring nature because with who I am now, will me nowhere. I don't know why it is but they seem to be right. So far it seems no one has an interest in people like me. I'm always walked over and but I always forgive and hope one day it will all come back around but I have an aching feeling it never will. Why does it have to be this way. I could never change who I am, I don't want to be someone that will hurt others. I don't wanna give up on love, but with who I am I might have too It just doesn't seem there is room in this world for me, which leads me to question my exsistance. Sorry for dumping your problems on you guys but I know you people care. I just can't take everything that is going on. This world is too cruel.

[malleus]

Yea for me love absolutely sucks big time. Everytime i think a girl likes me they blow me off and yet they tell me all about themselves it absolutey sucks. my last gf well i dont want to go inot to details but she was soo beautiful and the last thing she said to me was that i was stalking her yet i was on holiday in Scotland with my cousin, and there is no way of talking to her so all it is is another hole in my heart. -_-

[Daniel Legge]

Well wat i would say to you is to be yourself. If you are yourself then you can always find comfort in knowing that you have not tryed to be something your not. Im sure you will find someone for you one day, just keep believeing and have fun.

[kupoartist]

Originally Posted by linkkiller31

Just dont turn gay cuase you think the opposite sex isnt attractited to you.

Or A-Sexual because you figure that not even people of the same sex are attracted to you!

[happy_doughnut]

To be honest, I don't really understand the purpose of this thread. At first I simply thought Link was giving people encouragement on regards to "love," and not so much saying that he was discouraged by it. Maybe I read it wrong... it was 4 a.m. .

Anyway, I'm in school right now (yuck!) and I have to do some homeworks, so I'll be brief:

I think that there are many forms of love, like philia (brotherly form of love), agape (god's love), storge (parental love), and or course, our favorite eros (romantic love *sizzles*).

Now, just like I think that there are several forms of love (which are not limited to the ones I've mentioned above), I think that all of these forms exist and are very much real. But for the sake of not diverging into different topic, let me stick with eros.

Frankly, I don't want to divulge or go into a lengthy narrative of my life's story, but there is someone here (or maybe two peoples) that know exactly where I'm comming from. Now, for the sake of preservation, let me just say that I have every reason to not believe in "love" or the wonderful characteristics people attribute to it. Having been badly treated by this (love), it would have been very simple for me to just refuse love, and I did for a while. However, thankfully I later realized I was wrong to refute love, because I knew, deep within me, that love did/does in fact exist.

I think that a big problem with "love" is that instead of having it be a term used to show true heartfelt affection, many people say this word just because, especially young people. Now, don't get me wrong, I believe young people are perfectly capable of being in love, but the thing is that many confuse the feeling. For example, let's look at High School:

There is a young couple in 11th grade that "love" each other. Day after day the young man walks the young girl to her class, drops her off (cause hey, she might get eaten, ya know? ) *ahem*. Then they proceed to embrasin one another and kiss goodbye.... 45 minutes pass by and they say things like, "Oh, I missed you so much!" *kiss kiss* Sounds cute and romantic, no? If you ask this young man what she feels, he'll more likely than not say, "I love her so much. She's the best girl in the world." Consequently, the girl will probably say she loves him as well.

Now, a month or so passes by and they break up. They are both heartbroken for a few days, but soon enough the find someone else and they are "in love" all over again.

Now, I know everyone knows what I'm talking about. I'm not saying that couples that are like this are all the same, but vast majority just confuse a fling or a strong like with love. The problem? That the word loses its meaning. In more archaic times, saying that you loved someone was like asking for their hand in marriage. Now, saying you love someone can be said to anyone, with no actual emotion behind it.

This isn't an attack on anyone, let me make that clear. But I think that some will agree that many people, young as well as old, just flaunt this word around like a new hairstyle. I personally think that that is a major probable reason as to why many people decide to turn a blind eye towards love: if love were a spontaneous feeling that would easily change in a matter of weeks, I too would prefer to invest my time on another subject.

But the question here seems to be: Do you believe in love?

Firstly, a definition of love is required. If you look it up in a dictionary, you will find many. But yet, are any of those definitions ones we are looking for? No, not really. The love we seek cannot be defined by another person; it can only be defined by we ourselves.

So, do I believe in love? Yes, I do, but not in that premature way it is beeing used now.

Did I make much sense? Probably not, but this library is making my fingers freeze and I have math homework to do. Anyone care to lend me a calculator? I'll give it baack... promise!

I'll post more after as soon as I get a chance.

BTW, is it just me or are more "simple" topics turning into more discussions? I think they are, and I also think that's good.

[tempted]

Originally Posted by Uchiha Sasuke

Oh yeah heres a depressing post I put on a different forum

Let me start by saying that I am totally lost. My heart aches soo much for someone but everytime it denies me. I really don't understand this world at all. I do not understand what I should do. I get the feeling every night that I will be alone forever and pretty much cry myself to sleep. I'm still 20 and I know that young but still everyone one of my oppurtunities have been crushed, even though all my female friends say I'm soo attractive and sweet and caring that gets me nowhere. None of them ever approach me with any sign of interest. Which leads me to think its all lies, again destroying me slowly inside.

People tell me to change my sensitive and caring nature because with who I am now, will me nowhere. I don't know why it is but they seem to be right. So far it seems no one has an interest in people like me. I'm always walked over and but I always forgive and hope one day it will all come back around but I have an aching feeling it never will. Why does it have to be this way. I could never change who I am, I don't want to be someone that will hurt others. I don't wanna give up on love, but with who I am I might have too It just doesn't seem there is room in this world for me, which leads me to question my exsistance. Sorry for dumping your problems on you guys but I know you people care. I just can't take everything that is going on. This world is too cruel.

"the beautiful ones..they always seem to lose"

Hun, don't feel like that over this one too..you didn't even really tried..who knows what might still happen..i know you're tired of being alone..and i know you got hurt by the others girls before her..but don't even think about questioning your existance..that's bs..you're a really nice guy..and you are very cute...even if you don't believe me when i say it..and like you said you're only 20 years old..if you don't want to give up of love then don't..just because some dumb girls couldn't see the great person you are doesn't mean that no one will..cause i'm pretty sure someone will..just remember what you told me..

"Your probably feeling so lonely and how that its seems that everything in the world is out to get you. You die for a love and it brings you heart down all i can say is try so hard to enjoy life without looking for love."

..give yourself some time..you weren't even really over S. when A. came along..maybe you just need to be alone for awhile then go back on the hunt..but don't let yourself fall so deep and so easily..i know it's hard but try..and don't call me a hypocrit please..(and you know why i say this )

..even though all my female friends say I'm soo attractive and sweet and caring that gets me nowhere. None of them ever approach me with any sign of interest. Which leads me to think its all lies..

First of i don't lie..and second..how dare you?!..i've been hitting on you all week...and you ignored me.. -_- ..lol..now seriously Will..you're a great guy..just learn how to be a little more patient. Head up "yummy lips" ^_^ .

[LrdAlucard]

well ppl, i just have one thing to say. i really dont believe in the "L" word anymore. everything concerning to it sucks. Making it short, the most beautiful girls ive ever seen, or they have a b/f that really sucks n does all kind of shitty stuff to them n still they like 'em, or they turn lesbo =_=

ok, im in a bad mood, i was being sarcastic cuz i dont like this subject, but anyways things arent all pinky like linkin said, pretty much the other way around... ~^; lol, dont u all hit me now..

[tempted]

Originally Posted by LrdAlucard

well ppl, i just have one thing to say. i really dont believe in the "L" word anymore. everything concerning to it sucks. Making it short, the most beautiful girls ive ever seen, or they have a b/f that really sucks n does all kind of shitty stuff to them n still they like 'em, or they turn lesbo =_=

ok, im in a bad mood, i was being sarcastic cuz i dont like this subject, but anyways things arent all pinky like linkin said, pretty much the other way around... ~^; lol, dont u all hit me now..

Yo...you dumped her..so stop complaining!

[LrdAlucard]

lol, i knew someone would say smthing about it :p u know what happened kaenE ;| and u know im still her best friend (well, if u didnt know, u know it now lol) n i just went to the movies with her twice this weekend :x anyways, my point is... i believe OTHER ppl can find tha "L" stuff. its just not for me, that it isnt.

[squirms_619]

I've been single for 3yrs now. my last relationship was going great till I got in a fight (verbal) with my mother and had to move with my father because she kicked me out anyway I really like this girl but the long distance thing wasn't working for us so we both decided to break it off.

Now I live with my mother again but i'm also in a new school which isn't to bad cause there is a girl there that I really like and the problem is I don't know how to ask her out or if she even likes me that way but we are kind of friends I mean we talk and stuff. well i'm going to be working on that situation and fast cause it's our last year together in the same school.

[LrdAlucard]

dude. just ask her out, not with those intentions. just as a friend, for now. if she wants to tell ya something, she will. anyways, if i were u, i would be fine just with her company, dont u think? just go have lunch or to the movies or stuff like that. she will appreciate it

[linkkiller31]

well i see i brought up a lot of hardships for people and bad memerories and i apolagise for that. I just wanted to share the way i was feeling at the time. And i know at any time this whole relationship could turn around on me and crush me. But im fine with that its just a insecure postition fot me to be in. Hell my whole life is a insecure position. I used to hate love i hated the word i hated well i see i brought up a lot of hardships for people and bad memerories and i apolagise for that. I just wanted to share the way i was feeling at the time. And i know at any time this whole relationship could turn around on me and crush me. But im fine with that its just a insecure postition fot me to be in. Hell my whole life is a insecure position. I used to hate love i hated the word i hated well i see i brought up a lot of hardships for people and bad memerories and i apolagise for that. I just wanted to share the way i was feeling at the time. And i know at any time this whole relationship could turn around on me and crush me. But im fine with that its just a insecure postition fot me to be in. Hell my whole life is a insecure position. I used to hate love i hated the word i hated people who used it. The truth is i didnt go looking for love it came to me without even me trying to look for it. And yes i do believe most high school relationships are stupid and immature no offence to any one. For one cuase im in high school i still dont understand every quality to the word "LOVE" its a big thing not to be toyed with or joked around with. Like with my girlfriend i havent even told her that quot unquote i love her. we both decided thats a big step not something you just throw out to someone. If you tell someone you love them then you sayin ill be here forever. Im the one for you. Well this is what my brother says and i dont knnow how many people will agree with me, You see a lot of quot un quote girls friends and boyfriends making out hanginmy girlfriend i havent even told her that quot unquote i love her. we both decided thats a big step not something you just throw out to someone. If you tell someone you love them then you sayin ill be here forever. Im the one for you. Well this is what my brother says and i dont knnow how many people will agree with me, You see a lot of quot un quote girls friends and boyfriends making out hangin on eachother. Well thats fine if your gonna marry that person but if not then its like making out woth another man or womens wife or husband. You might be like well thats stupid but if you knew who that future person is and there dating someone else and there making out and all over eachother youd be like hey no. And if you here that person sayin i love you to the other person your future married person youd be like its a lie your gonna break up. So thats where im at but please tell me how you feel i like to listen and ill help any way i can so enjoy. You shouldnt give up though.

[LrdAlucard]

well dude....this was..one confusing post ^^; didnt even understood if ur helping ppl, or ur the one that is in need of help.. lol anyways....erm....well......good luck ~^;

[linkkiller31]

crap my message came out all wierd it should of been this
well i see i brought up a lot of hardships for people and bad memerories and i apolagise for that. I just wanted to share the way i was feeling at the time. And i know at any time this whole relationship could turn around on me and crush me. But im fine with that its just a insecure postition fot me to be in. Hell my whole life is a insecure position. I used to hate love i hated the wordThe truth is i didnt go looking for love it came to me without even me trying to look for it. And yes i do believe most high school relationships are stupid and immature no offence to any one. For one cause im in high school i still dont understand every quality to the word "LOVE" its a big thing not to be toyed with or joked around with. Like with my girlfriend i havent even told her that quote unquote i love her. we both decided thats a big step not something you just throw out to someone. If you tell someone you love them then you sayin ill be here forever. Im the one for you. Well this is what my brother says and i dont knnow how many people will agree with me, You see a lot of quot un quote girls friends and boyfriends making out hanginmy girlfriend i havent even told her that quot unquote i love her. we both decided thats a big step not something you just throw out to someone. If you tell someone you love them then you sayin ill be here forever. Im the one for you. Well this is what my brother says and i dont knnow how many people will agree with me, You see a lot of quot un quote girls friends and boyfriends making out hangin on eachother. Well thats fine if your gonna marry that person but if not then its like making out woth another man or womens wife or husband. You might be like well thats stupid but if you knew who that future person is and there dating someone else and there making out and all over eachother youd be like hey no. And if you here that person sayin i love you to the other person your future married person youd be like its a lie your gonna break up. So thats where im at but please tell me how you feel i like to listen and ill help any way i can so enjoy. You shouldnt give up though.
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Girls posses me but there never mine