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May 16th, 2005, 12:00 AM | #21 |
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Oh wow... what a surprise... neither of them were insulted about what i had to say... and look proof that meryl asked me to look at the thread!? WOW!
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May 16th, 2005, 11:02 AM | #24 |
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OK... I was in a bad mood last night... my apologies for snapping at anyone. I guess am just out of touch and clueless at the moment. I thought for sure that there was this big thing going on between you Meryl and Mena and cuz of the way you kept going on and on it only lead me to think more on along the lines of "oh geez... im worried about these two now... I know mostly from Mena that she and Meryl are very very close and she almost thinks of her as an older sister at times... the one she never had..." etc and so I was worried that because of a misunderstanding the two of you might have haulted being able to talk to eachother so of course I was like "STOP THIS" you know what I mean? I guess nothing nearly as dramatic as I was worried was going on, but that's what I thought and was how I responded. Sorry for being on the dumb side this time around. Sigh...
BTW, Im sorry we couldnt talk longer online that night. My buddy called me and he's a busy guy usually n the fact he is one of the few ppl who takes tha time to call me these days... well I had to and wanted to talk to him. Otherwise, had he not called, I would have talked to you more about what was going on because from the look of things it seemed to me that you were upset about the situation and I wanted to help a friend out by listening... which is why I had hoped you had been on but a half hour later, but oh well. And Rei, sorry for snapping. If you knew what had been bothering me last night in my personal life... well that's what made me displace some of my anger. It was pretty unnecessary to go off on anyone like that, I agree. Well, I guess I missed the boat on this whole thing, so I guess I will just try and stay out of it unless somebody specifically asks me for a comment. PEACE _RED_ stuff _RED_ stuff
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May 16th, 2005, 02:13 PM | #26 |
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Mark is right. This isn't the best place to spill your emotions. It is better if you and the person you are frustrated with just work it out or compromise. Just telling other people how you feel, who have nothing to do with the situation, only gives you temporary relief but it won't fix the problem in the end. So you are suck feeling the way you do over and over again until you and your loved one works on the relationship. Trust me, you can ask mark, I've been through all of this sh*t since I was like 13.
You might as well sit down and try to relearn eachother because I'm sure both or how many of you have changed. And the other person may not see the changes or know who you are anymore. So how can you deal with eachother in a positive way if you don't know eachother? My two cents, this isn't a good idea.
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May 16th, 2005, 03:41 PM | #27 |
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Coming back on topic somewhat, but continuing a father based theme, my relationship with my father has always been a great source of sadness in my life. Since he left me at ten, I've always really lacked the central paternal figure in my life. It took me many many years to forgive him for leaving in the manner he did (oh, too much to go into here, although it's possibly responsible for my hatred of the male gender), but I think I've forgiven him now. Although some things still burn, like the fact I still need to ask him for money and the guilt it causes me, because I hate to think of the fact that he is only that; someone to bail me out when I have no money. I'm sad and bitter and jealous altogether; he remarried and had a daughter. It's hard to watch a child grow up with the stability and love you've lacked somewhat and see said child lavished and happy, knowing what security and stability is. But I've forgiven him and I do love my father, just in a strange tarnished way. I don't think I'd ever want children of my own. I'd ruin them.
Strange to be typing this here, but why not? I was inspired by the thread content. Complication indeed. Mother I've tried please believe me, I'm doing the best that I can. I'm ashamed of the things I've been put through, I'm ashamed of the person I am.
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May 16th, 2005, 05:38 PM | #28 |
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Gah, I don't like quoting... it's too much work.
Anyways, well... I think this is a misunderstanding by the way things have been said. Personally, I never thought this to be a fight or anything... there have been some misunderstandings but mainly just differences in opinions. And well, I think I can speak for both meryl and me when I say that we would like to think ourselves civilized enough to have differences in opinions, discuss them, and remain the same. I think her no less my friend because of this; the opposite is true. I think she may agree. As for emmotions... well, I think the only "emmotional" posts were probably the firsts where the complications were posted, not these latter ones as these are just kinda expressing two different view points. This is to say... no, I'm not going to sit down with my dad and try to work it out because, ahh... how to say it? It has been so many years that even if I tried and so did he, it would be a matter of more years to set the record sraight. In this case, I don't think words alone suffice. And meryl: I really dislike the post you made in reply to one of Red's quotes. It's not your fault. From what I read, you probably asked him to read the thread since its hard to explain everything that went on in a small messenger box. Plus, it's easier to make things get more complicated that way. You probably figured it was best if he read it himself to understand what misunderstanding you were talking about. I don't see how that is your fault. Maybe he is the one that misunderstood the thread and whatever he says, happy or angry, is up to him. It's not your fault if he or anyone else says something rude or whatnot. Don't take fault; you made none. Anyways, continuing this discussion of the different ways parents can be seen... ... and picking up along the lines red talked about... I disagree again. You're telling me you can't be sensitive and strong at the same time? That's wrong. As red said, it is a fine line indeed, but it is possible. By me saying that I am sensitive (or you saying it) I mean that these things are important to me and that I do care. It does not mean that I cry and rant and whine and put on tantrum after tantrum every chance I get because I don't. That's not even being sensitive, that's just stupid. But thankfully, I have the strength to acknowledge that I do in fact care about the situations that permeate my family, my mom and dad, admit my feelings, namely and mostly to myself, and then let them go. It's true that there is always a sence of vacancy in me because the spot where my dad is supposed to be is empty nearly all of the time, but it's not like everything breathing moment I think about this. No. It's only when they happen that I feel, remember, and regret. After it, I am alright. I don't dwell on the memories that are not even there all of the time. There is so much to worry about in this life that doting on a single worry if meaningless; the world will pass you by. And I faithfully believe that life is a huge struggle, but that without any such struggle, then there will be no reward. These are my struggles. The times when I feel like I wish... just wish I could cry and grab my dad's arm and tell him I don't accept his decline, but I can't. It is not my place. I can only account for what I do, say, feel, think etcetera... not for anyone else. So I sigh. I sigh because I think, "Great... so, what else is new?" And yes, I feel sad. And I feel even sadder when I see the empty seats next to my mother on those special days. But after it, I am okay. As I said before, there is nothing I can do because I am here; it is my dad who is not. And well, I just won't force him to come if he so doesn't wish. It's just not the way I am. This sounds like weakness to you? Not to me. I am not comparing myself to a rock, mainly because of the extra flab I have been getting around the sides.... ... because I am not. But I am also not your teary eyed teen-going-to-adult. I am sensitive in that I feel a rush of something whenever I get displeasing news. This can be seen by my momentary inability to hold anything in my hand at the time. But I also have enough "strength" or whatever you want to call it to feel it and acknowledge that I am feeling it and let it go. I didn't let it go because I ranted? Well, everyone rants. Here, there, anywhere, or everywhere - everyone does it at one time or another. If by me feeling upset and saying it makes me "weak" then anyone that rants is weak. And you are getting something wrong. My emotions and outside situations are two different things. Don't confuse or try to mix them together. My feelings are exclusive meaning that well, I try not to talk about them much. Not because it's cool or because no one will understand or whatever, but simply because I don't like to. There are only a few people, namely 2, that I tell most of my things to and you know who those are. Not everything, but much more than anyone else because I feel free to do so. Now for everyone else, I don't "pretend" I am okay; I just don't say anything. My feelings have nothing to do with anyone else, meaning that if I feel like shit, it doesn't mean I go out and bit everyone's heads off. It's not pretending, it's reasoning. It's as if, for example, I am angry because the apple tastes bad. This doesn't mean I'm going to be angry at the peaches and oranges. It's not their fault so why should they be entwined? I don't see this as pretending that everything is fine. Pretending I think comes into play when you are boiling inside and you smiiiiile even though you want to cry and when people ask "are you okay?" you say "YES!!" Exggerated to make a point of course. With me, though... I don't have to do this because I know how I feel. I'm mad so I cuss everything visible to hell in my head and then I hear someone call my name. What do I do? I just go. I don't need to put on an angry face or a happy face. Shit. I only have one freaking face and this is the one I put on all the time. Most of the time I just look sleepy so I guess that's why no one even bothers to ask. So, nah. I don't pretend. I just take control as much as I can. What if someone asks... well, they don't because they can never tell but if it were to happen, I suppose I would say, "Hm? Do you want me to be angry?" It's all technique. What I mean about pretending is this: Say X wins something which I know and X knows s/he doesn't desserve. S/He gets much acclaim. I just don't jump in on the bandwagon. I just won't be a hypocrite. Will that get me fired? Maybe. I don't see why anyone would fire me for not applauding someone's congratulations of whom I don't approve. That simple. I will not, I have not and I never plan to, lie to myself and say, "Ohh, yeah. That X sure is great." There are plenty of people who think differently, so they can fill in the job. And to tell you the truth. Up until today, I have yet to be reprimanded for my being this way. It's just not wrong - I'm not doing anything wrong. I just won't put on a plastic face and pretend I agree with someone or something in order to please. And I don't play manipulation games anymore. I've seen them in all their dirty faces. Maybe this is why I have such distant relationships with peeople in general. I won't lie and be lied to. Not anymore... and you know what I mean. And yeah. I think this is why you understand... because you have gone through things that are similar in a way. It is hard. It is hard to be so young and to feel that there is no one there to help you. Remember my bastard boyfriend incident? Ugh. I wish I didn't. But at that time, more than anything else in the world I wanted someone to be there instead of at work or dealing with other things. It was so hard to get through that virtually alone. Why? I knew that maybe if I had said something, someone would have helped, that person being my mom. But as you say and as I have said too, it feels bad to go to someone who already has their own bundle of problems with your own. It's hard and after not doing so for such a long time, doing it would somehow be even harder. |
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Sorry for the double post. I somehow managed to go over the limit.
Ouch meryl. I'm an unwanted baby. Haha. That's so mean, but so true. As far as I go, I was planned! Although, my dad wanted a boy... and my mom wanted a girl... In their sted, they got me: a hybrid of boy and girl. So, yeah... they wanted me, dammit! Don't leave me live a vegetable to grow myself. Hmph! And I don't pity you. I never have. There are many things that are admirable of you, so don't say that. I am sorry that you go through all the things you tell me, not because I pity you, but because I care and I honest to goodness don't believe you desserve them, so I feel bad. Bad because, again, not of pity, but of sadness that it seems as if the better people in this world seem to get battered the most. This is a type of cosmic irony that I will never understand. And plus, you know that I think you as my friend and by now you ought to know that pity, in my opinion, is a sign of an enemy, not a friend. If my dad a good dad? I don't know. I don't have another dad to compare him with... but I do feel that he lacks in places. Sometimes he fails to fulfill his role. But even though, I still believe that someday things will seem different. Nothing ever lasts forever. And maybe this will too someday change. I only have one dad and while he may be the cause of my profane language sometimes, I still love him. I don't know why. I love how Faile put it: it's a strange and tarnished love. Maybe I'm just another stupid idealist, but I still wait for the day when I get his embrace because I will welcome it. I think that maybe it takes years of experience to better understand parental love and dis-love. There's a Chinese proverb that say something along the lines of, "To understand your parent's love, bear your own children." Maybe only when the child becomes the mother or father will they better understand what the parents did... the "why" that is always oh, so difficult to answer... for better or for worse. Or maybe all we have to do is age more and understand more the complexities a "real" adult (in age) goes through and how they emit them onto others. Who knows? Last edited by happy_doughnut; May 16th, 2005 at 05:41 PM.. |
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I just wanted to say that I LOVE ALL OF YOU! *GROUP HUG*
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I think all of my double-posting could equal half a novel right about now, LOL.
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Parents are flawed creatures with all the problems we have, despite the fact we want them to be perfect deep down in our hearts, they will let us down and they will upset us and act selfishly. I sometimes wonder if we all remain as children deep down, unable to really process and deal with things like cooking, paying bills and having somewhere nice to live with a cat and a good book. Certainly though, my experiences of family have convinced me never to become a father, I'd hate to destroy the sheer love and respect a child would hold me in the way it inevitably would happen. I'm sorry, kinda off topic rant again. Carry on guys!
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You "...should have known the way Red is by now..."?? *blink* *blink* *blink* Wow.. I think I might be batting zero around here right now... sigh... _RED_ stuff
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Red, you just love being into other people's stuff. Well, I created this thread to let emotions run wild, so I can not say anything against what you did. But, you should have let them handle their own situation. But, some other people are bound to come and speak of their emotions and problems. It betters peoples lives when they talk about things.
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Now for my problems.
I was in 6th period in school, and I'm minding my own business. We had a Sub so the others didn't give a shit about what the teacher did or said. My rriends cousin, Brian, (aka:Buckwheat) and his friends Jeremy, (Shave-ass) and Dilorian (Steam'n Beaman.) were sitting next to me with Jeremys' cell phone. I was peacefully playing my SP/Pokemon Emerald in peace, then out of nowhere, they sit near me and start to interview me, with the cell. I think this is how it went: Brian: Hello, I'm Brian Gumbull, (Fake name.) and I'm here with Gary Berteer. (Me, yeah right.) Now Mr. Berteer what do you have to say for our audience. Me: Get that SH#@ away from here! Brian: Smashing words Mr.Berteer, now let's get some replies from our sivilians. You sir, what do you have to say about Mr.Berteer?? T.A:....... Me: Shut, up! You don't even know me!! Brian: Please Calm yourself Mr.Berteer, now your reply. T.A: .....He's a dork.... Brian: My words exactly. Nice. And you sir what are your words?? Jeremy: Two words: X-Men. (My sideburns, WHICH ARE SHAVED NOW!!!!!) Brian: Mr. Berteer some people say you look like Wolverine, is that true?? Me: You're a total Jackass. Brian: Please Mr.Dork-I mean Mr.Berteer. Now what are your thoughts. Jeremy: Probably, the "Anixation of Portarico" ("Little Giants" Quote) BrianImataites me) Hi, guys I'm Gary and- (Rambling) BrianImataites me) Shut, up I know My name, I just wanted to tell you a joke. Whats the diffrents between the square root of 98% and the square root of 98% percent?? 98%!! Brian: Well there you have it folks, Gary is a Dork. I'm Brian Gumbull, on CNN news, "And that's how the cookie crumbles." END...
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Quite often my friends invite me into their situations and issues, so being used to it I think I mistook something meryl said as being more serious than it was, and responded with a few comments out of concern. It was not my intention to disrupt the thread. Also, mena and meryl n I are still cool n everything so... don't think it was bigger than it was either. I just write dramatically at times... Quote:
It sounds like you are having trouble getting picked on if I'm right? Well, first of all, let me tell you that you are not alone... your little dialogue that you have posted here reminds me of (now thinking back 10 years cuz im now 24) my experience in 7th grade. That year was probably the height of when I was picked on in my life. I would be sitting at a desk, minding my own business (same as you) and a few kids would always wander over n surround me and proceed to find something to bug me about. Well, looking back now it all seems so simple to me. I ask myself questions like why didnt I just say this or why didnt I just say that or shrug my shoulders at the obviously bored kids. Well, everybody wants to fit in with their peers or atleast not feel like the very object of their fun at your expense. That can feel humiliating. I remember it as I think about it now. Simply, put... could I have maintained an attitude that would have saved me a lot of this grief and kept them uninterested in bothering me, possibly even finding something cool about me? The answer is mostly good. Yes, their could be an attitude adjustment that you could make that could help you. First of all, though, REMAIN WHO YOU ARE and DO NOT CHANGE BECAUSE OF ANYBODY, even if they give you a hard time. The attitude adjustment I was talking about is complicated for somebody younger, but in the grand scheme of things, its actually pretty simple. JUST DONT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK. And by this I mean the ones who dont respect you. But that doesnt mean be that way towards everybody... just the kids who are bored and no better than their stupid games. Only give a fuck about those who try to give you advice or help. Don't always take their advice... but you'll learn to know a good person on your side sooner or later this way in life. Yo... the nutshell of all this is... just shrug them off... dont give em what they want... dont immediately react with "fuck you *******" all the time... trick is...dont let them know what you're thinking... don't let people change you who obviously don't know anything about life yet themselves... dumb kids. BTW, I used to idolize the character that wolverine is... I would not have minded resembling him even slightly...heh... I say go for the sideburns if you dig em. Make your style however the fuck you want it... make it known. Feel free to ignore all this dude if it has nothing to do with you... LOL PEACE _RED_ stuff
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