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[merylsilverburg]

Originally Posted by happy_doughnut

I think that a big problem with "love" is that instead of having it be a term used to show true heartfelt affection, many people say this word just because, especially young people. Now, don't get me wrong, I believe young people are perfectly capable of being in love, but the thing is that many confuse the feeling. For example, let's look at High School:

There is a young couple in 11th grade that "love" each other. Day after day the young man walks the young girl to her class, drops her off (cause hey, she might get eaten, ya know? ) *ahem*. Then they proceed to embrasin one another and kiss goodbye.... 45 minutes pass by and they say things like, "Oh, I missed you so much!" *kiss kiss* Sounds cute and romantic, no? If you ask this young man what she feels, he'll more likely than not say, "I love her so much. She's the best girl in the world." Consequently, the girl will probably say she loves him as well.

Now, a month or so passes by and they break up. They are both heartbroken for a few days, but soon enough the find someone else and they are "in love" all over again.

Now, I know everyone knows what I'm talking about. I'm not saying that couples that are like this are all the same, but vast majority just confuse a fling or a strong like with love. The problem? That the word loses its meaning. In more archaic times, saying that you loved someone was like asking for their hand in marriage. Now, saying you love someone can be said to anyone, with no actual emotion behind it.

This isn't an attack on anyone, let me make that clear. But I think that some will agree that many people, young as well as old, just flaunt this word around like a new hairstyle. I personally think that that is a major probable reason as to why many people decide to turn a blind eye towards love: if love were a spontaneous feeling that would easily change in a matter of weeks, I too would prefer to invest my time on another subject.

But the question here seems to be: Do you believe in love?

Firstly, a definition of love is required. If you look it up in a dictionary, you will find many. But yet, are any of those definitions ones we are looking for? No, not really. The love we seek cannot be defined by another person; it can only be defined by we ourselves.

So, do I believe in love? Yes, I do, but not in that premature way it is beeing used now.

You said it doughnut. My thoughts exactly, no need for me to repeat it all over again.

I just don't understand why being single is such an unbearable state of being. What's so wrong with being single? You're free, you're not tied down, you don't have to worry about appeasing the other person. I just don't get it. And for those who say, "If you're single, people might think you're a loser." So what? I hardly give a rat's ass if people think I'm a loser for being single and not finding the "right person" when that "right person" is gonna end up to be the wrong person. Sorry, I'm not one of those people who go out searching every day and night for the "love of their life" and immediately getting attached to a person who has some slight interest in you. I'm not desperate.
I just don't see why being single is so wrong. I enjoy looking at other couples and seeing them as happy as they can be (especially if they fit each other/look cute with each other) but I don't care about myself. I'm more worried about my future and whether I can make something out of myself and whether I'll be able to support myself and take care of my family who've worked so hard to get me to where I am. That's what I worry about...not "Omg, what if I can't find that person? Omg, what's wrong with me? Omg, what if I'm alone forever?" etc. It's just useless to get stressed over something like this when, as Link said, the right person will come along eventually (and I have said this so many times to so many people, that I could've made an album) you'll just have to be patient. Patience is a virtue. So many people on here are still so young...what's the use of trying to find a significant other at such an early age? Many young people don't even know what the hell they want in life, how can they think they know what to look for in a partner? If you can't take of yourself, then being in a relationship is just going to be a burden. Unless, some people try to find the other person in order for that other person to take care of them, then that's just being weak. But, it's just my opinon.

[Uchiha Sasuke]

Whats wrong with being single, nothing really. But sooner of later you will get that aching feeling of being alone. Plus when you fall for someone it adds to the heart ache of not being with him or her. Plus when you try for a relationship and constantly get shot down, even though your intentions are good, unlike a lot of people in this world, it hurts sooo bad.

[Spank-A-Thon]

Originally Posted by merylsilverburg

I just don't understand why being single is such an unbearable state of being. What's so wrong with being single? You're free, you're not tied down, you don't have to worry about appeasing the other person. I just don't get it.

There's nothing wrong with being single but I think, as human beings, we're designed to be with each other, not just on a physical level, but an emotional level too.

This need to be with someone manifests itself in different amounts and ways for different people. Some can keep it really hidden and therefore happily be single; others cannot and find they have a succession of partners til they find "the one" for them.

I think as people get older, this need increases and a lot of that is probably biologically/physiologically induced. Some remain single all their life. Basically it's different strokes for different folks.

To those of you who wish for a partner, it will happen just maybe not as urgently as you would prefer.

I found my partner when I least expected it; it seems to me it happens when you're not trying (or at least that's how it's happened to me thus far in life).

Don't give up - keep the faith cos love can be wonderful when it goes right.

- S

[linkkiller31]

Originally Posted by merylsilverburg

You said it doughnut. My thoughts exactly, no need for me to repeat it all over again.

I just don't understand why being single is such an unbearable state of being. What's so wrong with being single? You're free, you're not tied down, you don't have to worry about appeasing the other person. I just don't get it. And for those who say, "If you're single, people might think you're a loser." So what? I hardly give a rat's ass if people think I'm a loser for being single and not finding the "right person" when that "right person" is gonna end up to be the wrong person. Sorry, I'm not one of those people who go out searching every day and night for the "love of their life" and immediately getting attached to a person who has some slight interest in you. I'm not desperate.
I just don't see why being single is so wrong. I enjoy looking at other couples and seeing them as happy as they can be (especially if they fit each other/look cute with each other) but I don't care about myself. I'm more worried about my future and whether I can make something out of myself and whether I'll be able to support myself and take care of my family who've worked so hard to get me to where I am. That's what I worry about...not "Omg, what if I can't find that person? Omg, what's wrong with me? Omg, what if I'm alone forever?" etc. It's just useless to get stressed over something like this when, as Link said, the right person will come along eventually (and I have said this so many times to so many people, that I could've made an album) you'll just have to be patient. Patience is a virtue. So many people on here are still so young...what's the use of trying to find a significant other at such an early age? Many young people don't even know what the hell they want in life, how can they think they know what to look for in a partner? If you can't take of yourself, then being in a relationship is just going to be a burden. Unless, some people try to find the other person in order for that other person to take care of them, then that's just being weak. But, it's just my opinon.

I really do agree with you i dont have a problem with single people infact most of all my friends are single and they usually ask me why do i have someone right now in my life. And your also right that i have no freakin idea what im gonna do with my life i dont know whats in store or anything. Its just for me a sweet comfort to have someone by my side with me. Even though i know the comfort by me could turn around and kick me in the ass. Then id be single again and id be happy either way. I used to look at life as the glass half empty for everyhting. Now over the past year my views have changed and i figure if something happens like i break up or meet someone else or anything. IT happens for a reason so thats about it.

[Takua_Ikashi]

well I'm glad matt... er link... started this thread! its a good thing to talk about with other ppl! I think doughnut pretty much said it already so im not gonna go into detail... but when you use the word "love" you better be sure everyone knows what you mean! thats a powerful word... and in english it can easily get confused with another from of love....

[Takua_Ikashi]

Originally Posted by Spank-A-Thon

There's nothing wrong with being single but I think, as human beings, we're designed to be with each other, not just on a physical level, but an emotional level too.

This need to be with someone manifests itself in different amounts and ways for different people. Some can keep it really hidden and therefore happily be single; others cannot and find they have a succession of partners til they find "the one" for them.

I think as people get older, this need increases and a lot of that is probably biologically/physiologically induced. Some remain single all their life. Basically it's different strokes for different folks.

To those of you who wish for a partner, it will happen just maybe not as urgently as you would prefer.

I found my partner when I least expected it; it seems to me it happens when you're not trying (or at least that's how it's happened to me thus far in life).

Don't give up - keep the faith cos love can be wonderful when it goes right.

- S

well i think we could almost start a whole new thread with this topic... I gotta warn you i'm one of those ppl who hate being single... and don't automatically go "oh geeze it's one of those desperate ppl" kuz i honestly don't consider myslef desperite... I long for the day i find my partner... but being single has its disadvantages. who can you go to and show your more sensitive side and receive consolation? Who can you go to when your hurt and you need to someone to hold you? It's not exactly fun to cry on your own shoulder... And who doesn't enjoy beign on the recieving end of that? I would give the world to have someone who would come to ME and tell me their problems, just so i could comfort them. You don't get that when your single...

[merylsilverburg]

Originally Posted by Uchiha Sasuke

Whats wrong with being single, nothing really. But sooner of later you will get that aching feeling of being alone. Plus when you fall for someone it adds to the heart ache of not being with him or her. Plus when you try for a relationship and constantly get shot down, even though your intentions are good, unlike a lot of people in this world, it hurts sooo bad.

Hey, it's not like I don't understand this. But, it's just that so many people seem to want a partner, like, right this minute that they forget that things like this take time and come when you least expect it. It's almost like trying to find your car keys (okay, it doesn't have to be car keys...but you know ); the more you look for it, the harder it is to find. And about the whole being alone thing, I can understand this, but I personally feel that being alone makes a person much stronger and less dependent on a person. And about the aching feeling of not being with the person you fall for...yes, this is painful. Of course, you'll never know if there might be someone better that comes along later.

I'm sure that most of you guys probably think I'm just this cold-hearted, unfeeling bitch that doesn't understand this, but I do. I didn't mean to come off cruel (sorry if you guys thought this), it's just I find it sad that many people get stressed over this when eventually, as Spank said, it will happen. And believe me, Uchiha, I've had my share of those "aching feelings of not being with a person you fall for." Of course, lucky for me, I know the person I'm liking at the moment doesn't fit me and belongs with someone else. For example, there was a guy I liked a few years ago but I knew, he didn't fit me. Later on, when he found the right girl and started going out with her, I was happy beyond all reason because they *fit* each other and looked like a very nice couple. So, I guess I'm saying that I get over these things rather quickly because I know I'm not someone who belongs with anyone.

Originally Posted by Takua_Ikashi

but being single has its disadvantages. who can you go to and show your more sensitive side and receive consolation? Who can you go to when your hurt and you need to someone to hold you? It's not exactly fun to cry on your own shoulder... And who doesn't enjoy beign on the recieving end of that? I would give the world to have someone who would come to ME and tell me their problems, just so i could comfort them. You don't get that when your single...

These are all true and I don't deny it. But, sad thing is, there are some people who can't find a person to be with (now people, I'm not talking about anyone on here) so they would have to cry on their own shoulder, take care of themselves, rely on themselves. It is sad, but I also think a person can be happiest this way...because you're not a burden on anyone. Eventually, if a person is alone for a long amount of time, that person begins/will accept that and learn not to be sad or afraid or lonely. But, this depends on the person.

EDIT: BTW, welcome to the forums Takua_Ikashi, but please try not to double-post next time.

[LrdAlucard]

well meryl, i agree with u when u say that its somewhat better to stay alone, ull learn to take care of urself that way and not rely on everyone, or the "one" person. but being alone its still a pretty strong feeling, and even more when u like someone, but u still cant be with her. that really makes one go crazy. Being alone also can put into ones mind that he/she is not wanted by anyone in general, that he/she's a bad person in whatever way he/she thinks, and even if his/her friends tells him/her that thats not true n stuff, in the end, ur still alone.. (oh geez, did i gave it away that easily? )

ps: welcome Takua_Ikashi ^^;

[Takua_Ikashi]

Originally Posted by LrdAlucard

well meryl, i agree with u when u say that its somewhat better to stay alone, ull learn to take care of urself that way and not rely on everyone, or the "one" person. but being alone its still a pretty strong feeling, and even more when u like someone, but u still cant be with her. that really makes one go crazy. Being alone also can put into ones mind that he/she is not wanted by anyone in general, that he/she's a bad person in whatever way he/she thinks, and even if his/her friends tells him/her that thats not true n stuff, in the end, ur still alone.. (oh geez, did i gave it away that easily? )

ps: welcome Takua_Ikashi ^^;

thats it! you hit it right on the head. its all about not being alone. even if you were to go through the most vile cruel torture it would comfort you to know that theres somebody who really loves you (i'm talking about eros here) and is thinking about you.

P.S. Sorry guys i didn't mean to double post

[linkkiller31]

Well I think that everyone in here has valid points i agree with a lot that im hearing in here. And it just seems to me some people want to be single some want to be with some one. Which is fine some people die happily alone some die miserably alone. It just depends on the person. Some people say i dont need anyone else i can get through everything by myself it will make me stronger. Others like to have someone to depend on. My view is man or women were not designed to be alone though. Why else would we have such great communication skillls. And all those people out there who want to be alone would not be able to tell me they were never attracted to someone at one time or another and that you wanted to be with them. Its a natural part of are human nature to want to have a connection with another human being i dont care who you are its truth. But if you choose to be singe so be it

[Takua_Ikashi]

yea matt's (link) right... we can't impose our situation on another person... it's great to here peoples opinion but when the independent ppl start calling the dependent ppl desperate and the dependent ppl start calling the independent ppl gay then we've got a problem... Being either one is great for that person, but matt's got another good point when he says that man and woman were designed to fit eachother. they go together like pieces of a puzzle in all aspects of life.

[merylsilverburg]

Originally Posted by linkkiller31

My view is man or women were not designed to be alone though. Why else would we have such great communication skillls.

You do have a point there...about the communication skills and how people weren't designed to be alone. Unfortunately, as I said, some people have no choice or their path in life changed somehow and so they do end up alone or choose to be alone. Like you said, it depends on the person.

Originally Posted by linkkiller31

And all those people out there who want to be alone would not be able to tell me they were never attracted to someone at one time or another and that you wanted to be with them. Its a natural part of are human nature to want to have a connection with another human being i dont care who you are its truth.

For this, I don't deny it but I also do. There are some people who felt attraction for another, but they had no desire or longing to be with that person. Of course, these types are very rare, but it doesn't mean they aren't out there.
For singles, like myself, we had, one time or another, desired to be with another person. But (and I don't know about other singles) for myself, I found out that it was impossible for me to be with a person that I liked (whether it be a current crush or a future one) because I, regarding my personality and just me overall, am not someone who is meant for anyone. I accepted this a long time ago, so now, if I do have a certain attraction towards someone, I already know that person is not for me even though I feel attracted to them. And when that person I like eventually finds a mate that fits them (they must fit, otherwise the relationship won't last), I see them together and think, "Ah...now that's perfect." Err, I hope I didn't confuse anyone here.

Originally Posted by Takua_Ikashi

they go together like pieces of a puzzle in all aspects of life.

Yes! A very good point there! This relates to what I mentioned in my post above. A couple is meant to fit like a puzzle, but both pieces have to be right otherwise they won't "go together." That's what I meant by my above statement "they must fit, otherwise the relationhship won't last"...there are many couples out there who haven't found their mate...they date and date, but their partner never looks quite right. Eventually, once they find that right person, they both look "good" together. And this is when I go, "Ahhhh...that looks nice." So, regarding myself (since I'm the only person on here really arguing about the single thing, hehe), I don't see myself as "part of the puzzle" if you will. I feel I am a "lost" piece which doesn't belong anywhere. Which is why I've accepted my position. But hey! I'm completely happy to be single, don't get me wrong! It's one of the best things in my life, honestly. Hope this clarifies it a bit.

[Macceh^]

For singles, like myself, we had, one time or another, desired to be with another person. But (and I don't know about other singles) for myself, I found out that it was impossible for me to be with a person that I liked (whether it be a current crush or a future one) because I, regarding my personality and just me overall, am not someone who is meant for anyone. I accepted this a long time ago, so now, if I do have a certain attraction towards someone, I already know that person is not for me even though I feel attracted to them.

Thats a very sad thought Meryl, sorry you feel that way

[LrdAlucard]

meryl, i dont want to offend you or anything, but i think ur a bit the "no one will ever look up to me and im not wanted by anyone even if i like the person wioth all my heart" type. I know nothing about u unless those things u do say in the forum, but like Takua said, everyone will eventually fit into the other missing piece of the final puzzle. U just might have chosen not to accept it and NOW u push everyone away. Thats what i think of it, hope i didnt offend you U just have to be more confident about u girl, even though u say ur more happy this way, i bet its not entirely true, that sometimes u feel sad about it. U said "...i am not someone who is meant for anyone", and that u got over it a long time ago; well, u just got over it cuz u thought no one wanted u in that time. what about now? probably years have gone through. dont u think its time for u to have hope again? well, end of troubling you lol sorry for that
just cant hear someone saying "cant find someone, wont find someone, dont wanna find someone" unless its me but im masochist, so no harm is done (thats not true lol, just jking)

[RobHardo]

I don't have a real problem with love. I've had one of those tv loves. Anyone remember the tv show "Boy Meets World" I have one of those relationships, except mine has been goin since 3rd grade! We complete each other fully, and we have every thing in common...........everything.
So for all you people who r hopeless I'm here to give you confidence in yourselves. There is someone for everyone, no exceptions. There is no telling where to find your someone, you'll just meet by chance and it will go from there.

[Takua_Ikashi]

Originally Posted by merylsilverburg

So, regarding myself (since I'm the only person on here really arguing about the single thing, hehe), I don't see myself as "part of the puzzle" if you will. I feel I am a "lost" piece which doesn't belong anywhere. Which is why I've accepted my position. But hey! I'm completely happy to be single, don't get me wrong! It's one of the best things in my life, honestly. Hope this clarifies it a bit.

Wow... yea dude honestly... someone will come aorund for you. You just need to keep an eye open. I don't want to offend you or anything or make you mad but You shouldn't treat yourslef like that. trust me your a piece of the puzzle. perhaps your that piece that you can never figure out where it goes... but i'm sure when you fall into place you'll relize that there was always someone there waiting for you to come by... so don't give up hope!! I've felt like you before, the feeling that theres no way anyone could possibly ever love you. but theres somebody...

[linkkiller31]

well i kow everyone is like oh merylsilverburg but if he i totally comfortable with being alon then so be it. Like i said some people die alone and completly happy some die alone and miserable just depends on the person. But you still shouldnt be down that much on yourself thats like a bad habbit you could fall more into it and it could where of on other parts of your life like family friends other things. But if you choose to stay single then go for it but either way is fine.

[merylsilverburg]

Originally Posted by Macceh^

Thats a very sad thought Meryl, sorry you feel that way

Oh! Don't be sorry, I'm not sorry! I didn't say what I said just so everyone could be like, "Oh man, that's sad!" No, I said this because this is what I genuinely feel.

Originally Posted by LrdAlucard

U just might have chosen not to accept it and NOW u push everyone away. Thats what i think of it, hope i didnt offend you

Nah, you didn't offend me, it's cool. But, as I said in my earlier post, though I have felt that little "Oh, I want to be with that person" feeling, I actually don't mind being single and am happy about it.

Originally Posted by LrdAlucard

even though u say ur more happy this way, i bet its not entirely true, that sometimes u feel sad about it.

You know what I do feel sad about? I feel sad if another person isn't going out with the right person. That's what I feel sad about...100% the truth. This is tragic to me because I enjoy seeing perfect couples...I enjoy seeing two people who fit one another...I enjoy seeing happy couples...I enjoy seeing genuine love. If I don't see this, I get very sad.

Originally Posted by LrdAlucard

U said "...i am not someone who is meant for anyone", and that u got over it a long time ago; well, u just got over it cuz u thought no one wanted u in that time. what about now?

LOL, now I'm even more sure that I don't belong with anyone...more so than when I was younger! I betcha when I was younger, I wouldn't have much trouble...but now that I'm older and have more crazy thoughts and am a little more eccentric, I'm definitely a loner.

Originally Posted by Solid: Snake

I don't have a real problem with love. I've had one of those tv loves. Anyone remember the tv show "Boy Meets World" I have one of those relationships, except mine has been goin since 3rd grade! We complete each other fully, and we have every thing in common...........everything.

I actually smiled when I read your post because what you said made me happy. Very rare to hear, which is why it's so great...I'm happy for you both. ^_^

Originally Posted by Takua_Ikashi

Wow... yea dude honestly...

Thanks man, glad you thought I was a dude, hehe.

Originally Posted by Takua_Ikashi

You shouldn't treat yourslef like that. trust me your a piece of the puzzle. perhaps your that piece that you can never figure out where it goes... but i'm sure when you fall into place you'll relize that there was always someone there waiting for you to come by...

That's nice of you to say, but I'd probably be one of those really stuck pieces, lol.

Originally Posted by linkkiller31

well i kow everyone is like oh merylsilverburg but if he i totally comfortable with being alon then so be it.

It must be surprising that I'm a chick. A chick who wants to be single forever, strange eh? LOL.

Honestly people, like what link said, I'm happy to be alone and single, so there's no need to be sad or angry or upset about it. I know I probably sounded really sarcastic on my above posts (hope I didn't piss anyone off), but I do appreciate that you guys care enough to respond, but I'm telling you that I don't mind at all. I actually only mentioned my whole single thing because I wanted to just point out that there are some singles who don't mind being single.

But really, everyone who's worried about their status...don't worry...you guys will find your mate one day.

[happy_doughnut]

God, I can't breathe. I have this strip on my nose... *mena detracts fro reason.

Ah, it seems I started something and just kinda, left it there. Sounds just like me.

Anyway, there's so much that was said that I agree with! Quoting everything would be too hard, though, so I'll just give it a go without the quotes.

First off, let me say that I do believe in love. I believe that someday everyone will find someone that complements that person. Like Spank said, as human being, we have this insatiable want to be with another person. I think that as human beings, we are incomplete, no matter how strong or dependent you may be. If we were complete, then we would be perfect, and I believe that everyone here can agree to the idea that perfect we certainly are not. Now, because we are incomplete, it is our human nature, whether obvious or subtle, to find this something that will complete us - that something that will fill our holes and our gaps. Some may say this is weak, but I disagree. You are not looking for someone else because you can't take care of yourself, but rather to fulfil that human desire to have a whole.

What does this mean, exactly? It means that, as meryl likes to say, some people "fit" and others don't. Why do you think there are so many break-ups? Because not everyone goes with one another. However, once we find this other person that, whether we like to admit it or not, makes us feel complete, we will be happy. As humans, we have needs, wants and desires. On a physical level, we do need that caress every now and then. We do need that occasional hug. On a sentimental level, we do need those encouraging words every now and then. We do need that shoulder to lean on when we can't do it alone. We do.

This is not being weak. It is merely being human. It is true that some people can fend more for themselves than others. These people are more emotionally detached and thus can afford to be alone for longer bouts of time without it dawning on them. However, it is impossible to such a person to be alone forever and not feel the pain loneliness harbors. Furthermore, there is not a single person on this earth that can "do it all alone." Even if one thinks oneself to be the most independent person in the world, we still need someone at one point in our lives or another.

However, like meryl said, patience is a virtue and good things do come to those who wait. Love is something that, I think, everyone ought to have the chance to experience. Once you have found the real thing, and not a fake, then you will know and you will love it. You will love love, even with all the heart-aches it brings.

The problem is that much of say, the youth, of today is desperate to find it. Love is something that comes when the times is right, not when you want it to. Like a good friend, real love is hard to find. Many youths confuse love with lust, thinking that because they have some sort of attraction to and fro, it must, therefore, be love. This is comepletely false. One must never confuse lust with love; they are two different entities - one that satisfies the human senses and another that satifies the heart.

Nowadays, it is easy to say that you love someone. I know we hear it being said on a day to day basis. Love, as a word, has lost all magical meaning. It is not longer a word voiced by someone with loving feelings to another. Now it is used as an excuse.

I know the pains of caring for someone and not having them care for you in return. As humans, I think, we have all felt this at one time or another and if you haven't - you will. However, like meryl, I don't tear myself up because of this. I think that more than anything, love is serendipitous. One doesn't usually "find" love - we stumble upon it. We can't say, "I want love!" and have it come to us. It alone will determine when and who it will bring along.

So you have aching feelings because you aren't with the one you love? Get over it. Move on. Really. They are not the one for you because if they were, then they would be with you. And do you know why you haven't found love? Because you're stuck "loving" someone that doesn't love you in return and as a result you have shut yourself from possibilities. You are blinded by this thing that is not yours and by the want to have it, that you lose vision of anything else. If one lives like this - chasing after the stars that belong to someone else, then you will never find your own because it may well pass you by... and you know what? You didn't even notice.

I'm sorry if this sounds cold, but it's the truth. So he/she doesn't feel the same way for you? Forget it. He/she is not the only person in the world. Realize, understand, admit to yourself that they do not feel the same way. Take time to heal and then love yourself. Once you learn to care for yourself, you will realize that you actually understand yourself and once your understand yourself, you will know who you are and what you want. Once you know this, then you will find someone because, like meryl said, how can you know what to look for if you don't even know the one that's looking? It's nonsensical at best.

Love exists, everybody. It is out there somewhere. Where? It is in distinct places for everyone. You just need be patient and let it come to you. This is not to say you sit around doing nothing. No. Go out, meet people... broaden your horizons and while you're doing that, you'll see that love will come and meet you half way.

If you love someone, show it - don't assume they "know." If you still haven't found someone, rest assured that you will. Is there someone for everyone? Yes. Will everyone always find it? No.

Just remember that love is not a mere feeling - it is a feeling that once you've experienced, you will never forget.

Look at this way: According to Biblical scriptures, God created Eve out of one of Adam's ribs. As a man, you are adam and you are looking for your "rib" - the female. But you see - not every rib will "fit." Some will be painful, some will fall out and some will simply not fit at all. When you find a rib that doesn't feel fully comfortable, then it is because it is not your rib - it is someone else's. That rib doesn't belong to you and no matter how much you want it, it does not fit you because it is not yours.

There is a rib for every male, and there is a male for every rib.

[merylsilverburg]

Originally Posted by happy_doughnut

You are blinded by this thing that is not yours and by the want to have it, that you lose vision of anything else. If one lives like this - chasing after the stars that belong to someone else, then you will never find your own because it may well pass you by... and you know what? You didn't even notice.

This is so true, but the sad thing is, many people desire the unattainable. People tend to want something that they can't have....and the temptation for it grows stronger and stronger everyday. Why? Because we know we can't have that item/person/whatever, so we want it even more. That's why people get themselves so stuck in a rut, as you said. This is understandable (that we desire what we can't have) but it honestly does do away with possibilities. Not only this, but a person can become insane this way...it's incredibly unhealthy, but it's human nature, unfortunately. Of course, people can change and try to let it go...so, hopefully, some people will one day realize that the person they lust for is not the right one.

Originally Posted by happy_doughnut

Look at this way: According to Biblical scriptures, God created Eve out of one of Adam's ribs. As a man, you are adam and you are looking for your "rib" - the female. But you see - not every rib will "fit." Some will be painful, some will fall out and some will simply not fit at all. When you find a rib that doesn't feel fully comfortable, then it is because it is not your rib - it is someone else's. That rib doesn't belong to you and no matter how much you want it, it does not fit you because it is not yours.

There is a rib for every male, and there is a male for every rib.

How freaky, I was gonna post the whole "Adam and Eve" thing too, but I didn't want to get into religious aspects since people might misunderstand me. Perfect wording, doughnut.