»

[merylsilverburg]

I've been diagnosed with a mild depression. I went to the doctor today because I wasn't feeling well, and he went off and talked to my sister, saying that I do have a slight depression. I've been getting ill for a long time (ever since freshman year) and missing a lot of school....and everytime I go to him, he always asks if I'm stressed. I am stressed out, but I brushed it off because I usually can handle it. Well, it got to that point where I am actually a very healthy person, but because of my depression, I've been getting sick more and more and feeling more stressed than normal. So, he prescribed me anti-depressant.
I always knew I was depressed, but I always kinda denied it. What he said was the way I talk (very monotone, but I didn't realize it was from depression) and the way...that there's just something not right with me. Like...he said I'm supposed to be a teenager, but there seems to be an unsettling cloud over me that it's just doesn't feel right. Like I'm never at ease; always stressed out. So, that's when he suspected. And now, I have a choice whether or not to take the anti-depressant. Now, I don't know what to do.

[Mercury Shadow]

I'm really sorry to hear that, Meryl. I wish there was something I could do... I think that you should take the medecine because if you don't, you'll always wonder what it would've done. You never know, it could change your life. I have a couple of friends who take anti-depressents and it really helped them. I'm sure you'll make the right choice in the end, what you think is best. Even if it isn't the right choice, you can always get off the pills. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck

[Hadoken]

If its been going on for a long time, I think you should just try taking the anti-depressant for a little while. It could help you feel better, and there's nothing wrong with taking it. A lotta people suffer from depression, and almost all of them deny it. The first step is always admitting and accepting it.. Do you know what causes your mild depression? I know you've said that you tend to be a quiet person, meryl. Perhaps it just comes from your social life? I'm not trying to be a shrink or anything here, and I dont even know if my advice is going to help you or not. But hopefully it does. I think you should just take the medicine for a few weeks, it could change your personality a little bit. Not in a bad way though, I think you'd only be more optimistic, outgoing, and talkative than before. And often, that does help you feel better about yourself.
I have a friend who used to have mild depression, her reason was that she just didnt feel good about herself and didnt socialize very much. I noticed it and tried to help her by letting her hang out with me, and she ended up being a heck of a lot more social and talkative. I'm not sure what I did, but her confidence just seemed to take a giant boost.
The main thing with depression is that you have to find whats causing it, and figure out how to make things better. Different people have different reasons. If you find out what yours is, we're always here and can try to help you with it.

[merylsilverburg]

Originally posted by Hadoken
The main thing with depression is that you have to find whats causing it, and figure out how to make things better. Different people have different reasons. If you find out what yours is, we're always here and can try to help you with it.

Thank you Merc and Had. I know what's causing my depression....but my situation is not something that can be helped because it deals with my family and school and just...me...since I was always different from everyone, I was always tormented by many things. Plus, I was also traumatized by a situation that happened during 6th grade and I'm not fully recovered because...it was just so sad.

[Beretta55]

whoa....i really dont know what to say im not the best speaker in the world but you should take the pill's for awhile cause there really would be no need just being depressed all the time. so they might actully help. if they dont i guess you kick those thing's but i hope you get better and if you ever need to talk im here and so is the rest of ps2fantasy

[Pu the Owl]

This may seem banal, and that's why I won't repeat anybody's wise words and I won't post the usual suggestions that you could receive in this case, but I probably have more than an idea of your state (even if this changes according to the person) at this moment and I'm sorry to hear you're not feeling fine.

You have all my sincere understanding, and I'm ready to listen if you want to talk

[Hadoken]

Originally posted by merylsilverburg

my situation is not something that can be helped because it deals with my family and school and just...me...since I was always different from everyone, I was always tormented by many things. Plus, I was also traumatized by a situation that happened during 6th grade and I'm not fully recovered

I honestly dont believe that it cant be helped. If you knew it couldnt be helped in the first place, then why do you think you came here to tell us about it? Your seeking help, meryl. And your being pessimistic about the situtation. Think and list some optimistic ideas about the situation right now. think that you WILL feel better, and what's happened in the past is in the past, its not good to dwell on it. And as for family problems, everyone has them, but the best thing to do is talk to them i guess. I know it sounds corny, but when it becomes serious, that may be the only thing you can do. As for school, there can be many reasons, getting tormented is usually the main one. There's always someone who can help you though, all you have to do is work up the courage to talk. I know this might sound rude, but would you mind telling us more? it's a step towards being helped. I'm sure there are other people here who can relate in some sort of way to what has happened to you in the past. We're all here to help each other.
Another thing is to just do things that cheer you up. Just dont do anything that puts you in harm. I used to get in fights all the time because there were people who pissed me off. I won most of them, but err.. thats probably not the approach you should take, your probably not the fighting type, and violence probably wouldnt be the answer for you. I just drive whenever i get pissed off now, it makes me feel better, just cruising for hours and listening to music. It gives me time to think. but enough about MY problems. lol
There's always help out there, wether its family, friends, or even yourself. You need to be optimistic. Don't ever say no one can help you. (I dont wanna hear you saying that again btw)
Uhh... I dont know if i'm helping or making things worse, so tell me if i am or not. I just wanna help, ok? Feel better, meryl!
And like frostman and fortun says, we're here to help! if you want it or not is up to you. I hope you do.

[merylsilverburg]

Originally posted by Hadoken

think that you WILL feel better, and what's happened in the past is in the past, its not good to dwell on it. And as for family problems, everyone has them, but the best thing to do is talk to them i guess. I know it sounds corny, but when it becomes serious, that may be the only thing you can do. As for school, there can be many reasons, getting tormented is usually the main one. There's always someone who can help you though, all you have to do is work up the courage to talk. I know this might sound rude, but would you mind telling us more? it's a step towards being helped. I'm sure there are other people here who can relate in some sort of way to what has happened to you in the past. We're all here to help each other.

My goodness, what you said is exactly what my sister always tell me.
Ah, what happened in the past is still actually occuring now...and my family problems are.....don't mean to be rude, but it's so shitty and complicated that I think it may be hard for many to understand. And not only that, but it would take longer than just a post to explain it all because it's that bad. And, I'm afraid to share my family situation because I feel ashamed somehow.
School...being tormented is common...for some strange reason, I just can't get adjusted to this school ever since I moved to this town. And, the teachers just...flat out dislike me because I miss so many days.

[Pu the Owl]

Listen, I perfectly know that sharing your problems in a Forum is not the best thing to do, but you know among all the people that come here, there are some who you know a little better and they will be happy to listen to you and help you with some words, if they can. I don't think it's fair to ask you to post here all the situations that are making you feeling bad. I can't recommend you to talk here, because it's like talking to unknown people as well, and it's obvious this could make you feel ashamed.
It's up to you to talk or not, but the thing I can say is: just talk to the ones you think can understand or to the ones you have more "familiarity" (because you talked to them other or because you know they're kinda reliable). Just don't worry for the others. I think those people (as I know you have some "friends" here) could help you more than all the others that could read your posts here.

[merylsilverburg]

Originally posted by Fortune

Listen, I perfectly know that sharing your problems in a Forum is not the best thing to do, but you know among all the people that come here, there are some who you know a little better and they will be happy to listen to you and help you with some words, if they can. I don't think it's fair to ask you to post here all the situations that are making you feeling bad. I can't recommend you to talk here, because it's like talking to unknown people as well, and it's obvious this could make you feel ashamed.
It's up to you to talk or not, but the thing I can say is: just talk to the ones you think can understand or to the ones you have more "familiarity" (because you talked to them other or because you know they're kinda reliable). Just don't worry for the others. I think those people (as I know you have some "friends" here) could help you more than all the others that could read your posts here.

Yes, that's why I don't really want to share the problems. I do have a few people I'm really close to on here and I've only told my situation to one of them. I'm sure that many of you could understand, but then I still feel afraid.
Ah, I feel so pathetic sharing my problems with you guys, when I usually want to help people more. So sorry.....I just don't know what I should do about the medicine. I suppose I'll take it, but I'm just afraid that it might make me lose my sense of duty...because my depression is actually helping me realize what I must do in my life.
I guess we can call this case close. Thanks again for all your help guys.

[Pu the Owl]

Originally posted by merylsilverburg

Yes, that's why I don't really want to share the problems. I do have two people I'm really close to on here and I've only told my situation to one of them. I'm sure that many of you could understand, but then I do still feel afraid.
Ah, I feel so pathetic sharing my problems with you guys, when I usually want to help people more. So sorry.....I just don't know what I should do about the medicine. I suppose I'll take it, but I'm just afraid that it might make me lose my sense of duty...because my depression is actually helping me realize what I must do in my life.

Yes, it's good idea to talk only to them more in detail. As for the others, you can talk to them, but telling them everything is not necessary. Anyway, you know my messenger handle, if you need some other boring and unuseful word

As for the meds, I don't think they can erase your sense of duty. When in general you're not feeling well, that's not real sense of duty and you shouldn't say it helps you to realize what you must do. I believe that's only what illness told you to do, and it's not good for you to follow a partial idea. You should decide and realize when you feel better, at 100% of your energies and meds won't tell you what to do, but they'll help you to gain the necessary energy to decide.

[Hadoken]

well whatever you do, make sure you pass through school so you can get a good future.
the medicine shouldnt make you lose your sense of duty, perhaps it'll make you feel more confident in getting those goals accomplished.

[ssjtrunks13]

Meryl, I have suffered from mild depression in the past and son't talkmuch either. So, as people have said before take the pills because they might help you and if not you can just stop taking them and let the person who prescribed them when you feel they haven't been doing anything. I used to take anti-depressant pills, but they didn't really do anything for me. Also, know there are people like me out on these forums who you could probably talk to. Peace!

[Ruby Moon]

Mild depression at your age is not that serious meryl, so don't be too much worried. Especially if you don't feel comfortable at school or if you have some troubles at home, it's kinda natural to be slightly depressed. If you were older, that would be completely different. Don't take medicines as the ultimate source to get better though.

[Suzuki_Fanboy]

Well, I'm sorry to hear that meryl....but my opinion on taking the pills or not taking them would have to be...that it's your choice. I wouldn't take them if it was me, but if you think it will help you, then you should. I think that you should try to not take them for a while, and if it becomes to much for you, go to the pills. I would just say don't go to the pills first.

And thus concludes Suzuki_Fanboy's meaningless opinion. You should listen to people other than me, they'd probably know better.

[007_JamesBond]

just another one of lifes little hooks, that is it. It is mearly what your mind thinks of it, I am sorry to hear it and I am sure that you will get past it with ease. You also know that anytime we can talk if you want, K

[merylsilverburg]

Originally posted by Ruby Moon

Mild depression at your age is not that serious meryl, so don't be too much worried. Especially if you don't feel comfortable at school or if you have some troubles at home, it's kinda natural to be slightly depressed. If you were older, that would be completely different. Don't take medicines as the ultimate source to get better though.

That's true, but it's all the stuff that happened to me in the past, when I was a kid....I actually been depressed ever since I was in 6th grade...which became worse when I was in Sophmore year...because of the situation I was in. I've only gotten a little better now, but still have it. I know what you mean though about the medicine...but I guess I should just give it a try anyway...just to see.

Thanks for all the help and support, guys. This means a lot to me.

[ssjtrunks13]

I never really got depressed until somewhere in the middle of 7th and 8th grade.

[MakgSnake]

Originally posted by merylsilverburg

I've been diagnosed with a mild depression. I went to the doctor today because I wasn't feeling well, and he went off and talked to my sister, saying that I do have a slight depression. I've been getting ill for a long time (ever since freshman year) and missing a lot of school....and everytime I go to him, he always asks if I'm stressed. I am stressed out, but I brushed it off because I usually can handle it. Well, it got to that point where I am actually a very healthy person, but because of my depression, I've been getting sick more and more and feeling more stressed than normal. So, he prescribed me anti-depressant.
I always knew I was depressed, but I always kinda denied it. What he said was the way I talk (very monotone, but I didn't realize it was from depression) and the way...that there's just something not right with me. Like...he said I'm supposed to be a teenager, but there seems to be an unsettling cloud over me that it's just doesn't feel right. Like I'm never at ease; always stressed out. So, that's when he suspected. And now, I have a choice whether or not to take the anti-depressant. Now, I don't know what to do.

I know I wouldn't be a great help or even any help at all. But I think its because of how you are. CHANGE yourself. You are sooooo freaking negative about yourself. I mean this is too much. You are negative, and negativity brings depression to one self. You dont need no medicine or any tablets like that. You are the cure. In school you "THINK" if you say something would be said against you in a weird manner. You have to change yourself. (Now I get a feeling that you'll say the first thing is "I cant change myself" and stuff like that) Thats the first step of Negativity. Its something not nice. Like I said, I may not be helping you at all here. But I am saying all this just cause I care........simple. (Even if it doesn't sound like it). Its your fault.

[Frozen]

I'm not sure if I could blame you for what it's happening to you, but I do believe that there is something you need to change in yourself, and I agree on that with Makg, being negative does not help at all, nor kicking against your own self. Although I don't dare to say it's your fault, since I'm sure external factors have interfered, and probably out of your control. but as you have said, it is something from the past, and to dwell on the past is to lose your life in it.

And I can say that I think pretty much the same as Hadoken, and I would tell you basically all the same what he did.

you know that I am always there to lend a hand, and always will. Please do not forget that, even if I'm not that great as a person, I am your loyal friend.


*hugs*