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Rei · Feb 5th, 2004, 06:49 AM

I think... everybody's able to give advice, but as Chara said, only few are able to give advice they could follow as well. This doesn't mean the people who don't follow their own advice are not giving it with sincerity, only that maybe they are good at listening and speaking good old common sense, but then they don't try to "walk in someone else's shoes" when needed. It's very important to feel with some intensity the other person's problem before you can give good advice, an advice you know the other could follow because you would follow it being in the same situation. But most of the time we just try to say clever things, not caring much if the other person in a particular situation finds them useful or not. Some people even find irritating when they give advice and others don't follow it for various reasons. Isn't this way of acting irritating? In this attitude there's the arrogance to say "I gave you advice, which is what you wanted, now don't make me waste my precious time anymore and do what I said. My advice is the only way for you to solve this". I hate when people do that, that's a good reason to m e to rarely ask for advice of any kind.

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Feb 5th, 2004, 06:49 AM	#7
Rei EVA 00 Pilot Joined: Jan 2002 Location: NERV Age: 41 Posts: 2,239	I think... everybody's able to give advice, but as Chara said, only few are able to give advice they could follow as well. This doesn't mean the people who don't follow their own advice are not giving it with sincerity, only that maybe they are good at listening and speaking good old common sense, but then they don't try to "walk in someone else's shoes" when needed. It's very important to feel with some intensity the other person's problem before you can give good advice, an advice you know the other could follow because you would follow it being in the same situation. But most of the time we just try to say clever things, not caring much if the other person in a particular situation finds them useful or not. Some people even find irritating when they give advice and others don't follow it for various reasons. Isn't this way of acting irritating? In this attitude there's the arrogance to say "I gave you advice, which is what you wanted, now don't make me waste my precious time anymore and do what I said. My advice is the only way for you to solve this". I hate when people do that, that's a good reason to m e to rarely ask for advice of any kind.