[Vicious_2003]

I think its mainly the younger girls that go for the jerks (Im talking 16-23). They like to be rebellious towards thier parents and what better way than to go out with a guy thier parents will hate. And for many that idea just sticks and they develop a taste for the jerks

And I think with the older women it becomes more about what THEY want in a man, wich may or may not be that tough guy image.

And heres a hint ladies. If a guy doesent listen to you and talks to your chest all night. Please, open your eyes and realise he is only out for sex. Its something guys do that is gisgustingly obvious that most women cant detect for some reason. And then they wonder why he doesent call the next day (DUH).

Everyone is obssessed with the physical side of people - yet no one is willing to admit it.

How very, very, very, true. And it amkes sence too. The physical side of a person is the first thing you notice, so of course if thats the first thing on your list about a person it will be the first thing you either like or dont like about them. And if you dont like how they look, it turns you away from that person. So you never get the chance to know them as a person. Physical attraction is VERY important in a relationship

In my 28 years of life thus far, I have found that those who may be considered 'less attractive' have the strongest and more interesting personalities. Maybe it's because us ugly people need to compensate for our 'physical deficiency' but I know for sure no matter how 'beautiful' a person may be perceived to be - I won't go out with them if they have a bad personality

I dont think its because over weight or un attractive people have to compinsate with a good personality. I think its just that attractive women develop a thing I like to call Vanity. Now there isnt an attractive women alive that would admit to this, but its true. Date one and youll see. The more attractive they get the more vain they usually are. They get it in there head that they can controll you because there so beautiful you wont leave them. And sadly sometimes thats the truth, they can. Theyre used to getting what they want and that usually leaves them void of any character or a good personality because they dont need it. They can be a complete bitch and get what they want so why be nice ?. Im telling you, an attractive girl with a great personality, its every mans dream and they are VERY VERY VERY rare.

Why do males say that they want a girl who's "kind and intelligent", but have their actions contradict them

A mans idea of a wife and a girl he would date are two different things. Im going to go ahead and let out one of mans age old dating secret that no women is meant to know. Any guy you date knows within the first half hour of talking to you weather or not your the girl he is going to marry some day or a girl he just wants to sleep with. There is no in between.

Again, I dont think nice people have to compensate with good personalitys. I just think attractive people's personalitys degenerate over time due to a certain amount of Vanity. And of course as with EVEYRTHING there are always exceptions so dont post about the one person you know who is both cute and has a good personality.