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I've been in a lot of relationships. I can sum up all of what would take 20 minutes to type by telling you this. You're in high school... You're too young to understand the dynamics of a long term relationship. You don't know what it means to sort out your priorities.
Think of it this way. Let's say she was moving away, and you can't move there because you're still with your parents. If you were older than 18 and living on your own, what would you do then? What do you think you would do if you WERE older than 18... Would you make the same decision that you would make now?
If your best friend spent 500 bucks on a girl he was with for a year or something, what would you tell him? If you knew his hobbies and desires and knew that he passed them up for a girl that he wasn't even married to, how would that make you feel?
The best way to judge a decision you make, is to look at it from an alterior perspective.
I use my mom to judge my actions. My mother is a beautiful and smart person and I always think of her before I make any rash decisions.
My straight forward opinion. You spent too much money on that girl, bro, and she walked away like a highway bandit. If she really cares about you, it wouldn't take more than 20 dollars to get a cheerful hug and kiss from her. If she LOVES(D) you, then it wouldn't take ANY money.
I've been through 6 relationships, 1 girlfriend, and 2 girls that I just dated but didn't follow through. I'll tell you this, it's never REALLY worth it, it just depends on how you feel, and how responsible you are. If you're only 16, then you're only 16, and no matter how you look at it, you can't compare your experience or knowledge to someone older that's been through more. Sure, you could tell me, "Yeah but I'm mature enough to know how I feel"... Yeah, maybe you are mature enough to know how you feel, but you're damn sure, not mature enough to know how to handle the way you feel.
What you did: Find out your girl might leave you so she can prioritize on school. Buy her 500 dollars worth of crap that you will never see in spades. Give her a romantic dinner at your friends place.
What Sonny would've done: Ask her about it. Tell her, "You know I'll always be there for you baby... No matter what happens, if you need help or space for school... I know better than to call you all the time or bug a boo... If you think it best for us to part on good terms, rather than face conflict later and part on bad terms, then I'm cool with that..." If she decides to stay together, because she cares too much to give up, then I'll buy her some earrings and dinner, but if she decides to break up because she doesn't care about me enough to face a struggle with me by her side, then I'll take her to a movie, drive her home, give her a kiss and a hug, make sure she gets inside safely, and take my boys out to kick it.
Peace
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