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Originally posted by Preventer Wind
And besides Fortune said she felt embarrassed when she receives expensive gifts. She never said she didn't like it or appreciate it 
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To me, feeling embarassed is always a negative feeling. I'd rather not receive expensive gifts, mainly because it feels like wanting to put a seal on a relationship, which is something I don't need - I mean, I don't need expensive gifts to put a seal on something. It's like a way to make the person who receives them feel in a position where it's impossible to say "no".
And regarding the age factor, of course there are persons who get married when they're only 20, or even earlier, but this is not the case. Squaredsoft clearly stated the relationship was going to end because of lack of communication among them. If you feel things are going so bad when you're only 16, and you act like an older person trying to save a marriage or a love relationship thanks to money, well, this is what most of all I consider pointless. Relationships shouldn't be improved and satisfaction and happiness obtained thanks to money. This is something adults do all the time, and if it's true that sometimes this avoids relations to end (for the same "putting a seal on something" principle I was talking about in the first lines of this post), it's also true that this doesn't imply the relationship will get better and the couple's problems will disappear. It's false values you're relying on, not love, not real interest, not communication. Even if buying something expensive may seem a noble thing to do to show your appreciation, being satisfied for the happiness you can obtain this way isn't a positive thing. If you ask me, I think in most cases this is a narcissistic attitude, not a noble action. Squaredsoft himself admitted he did it also in name of self-satisfaction. Call me stupid, but I think self-satisfaction and true love are mortal enemies. There are so many ways to make a person happy... if there's affection and love money is not necessary, especially for a young boy like Squaredsoft is. Adults often need these means to be reassured, but then we often like to say adulthood is rotten and we regret the innocent and spontaneous ways of youth. Being 16 and needing to spend 500$ to make a person happy isn't that spontaneous IMO...