Chara, I think that your cousin's are complete asses, they obviously show no respect whatsoever to you or your mother, and I honestly don't think you two should put up with that type of behavior. But your mother is probably only letting them stay at your home because they are "family", and she sounds like a person with good morals, so I don't think she'd want to have to kick them out and seem like someone who doesnt care about "family", which would probably also make your uncle upset, even though he himself seems like a not so good person. If he were, he should be taking care of his own children, not your mother. Your cousins obviously enjoy taunting and tormenting you, even though they are younger(which again, is disrespectful), so I think that they need to be put where they belong, you have to find a way to show them who's the boss around the house. If they are being disrespectful enough to steal money, steal clothing, taunt you, and free-load off of your family, they are a little too relaxed and carefree, and I think your sister has been a bit passive about the borrowing of clothes too.. has she said anything to them about it? If she doesnt, they'll probably just continue to think that its ok to steal other's belongings. I would tell you to sit down with your mother and uncle and discuss the current situation, but from the sound of it, he seems as if he doesnt care about his own children, and is letting your mother take care of all the responsibility, while he goes who knows where. People have their limits, Chara, and I think your being pushed a little too far, with the problems your going through, you just dont need this type of BS from your cousins. You have to make it apparent to them that what they're doing is wrong, if you've been too passive in the past, they will think that they own the place and do whatever they want, you cannot allow that to happen. If you and your mother don't figure something out, thing's will probably just get worse. But I advise you not to threaten you will move out if she doesnt do something, because I think that will just make your mother feel worse than she already feels.. She probably feels the same way as you do, but with her being your mother, I dont think she will agree to kicking them out right away, unless she is pushed to the edge. So try to have a talk with your uncle, and if that doesnt work, you have your mother, who should be in charge of the house, to have something done with your cousins, they are still young, so I think that she'd legally be their guardian, since the father is not living with them, and when they live under her roof, they should have to listen to her. Perhaps there are some activities or groups that could keep them occupied after school? I'm not sure if this is helping you or not chara, but if you need to talk to someone, and dont' feel like discussing it with those you know in person, feel free to come onto here and explain it.
