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Mandy, I don't think that's necessarily true. I believe you set yourself up to be who you are. I stay in shape on purpose and I take care of myself. If you're out of shape or not so good looking, and you think you're not so good looking, then you should work on it to a point where you can look in the mirror and think, "I'm happy with the way I look". If you're not happy with the way you look, then you can't blaim others for not being happy with it either.
In older times, overweight women were more attractive than thin women, and even now there are guys that are more attracted to overweight women. Back then, I'm sure it was hard for thinner females that had a strong metabolism.
In any case, I'm not looking for a girl that's great looking, but I feel that if I want a girl that's cute, then my desires should be sought. That's not the primary thing that I'm after, but you shouldn't use a kindergarden form of judgement in perspective. "People can be beautiful on the inside". They're not necessarily beautiful on the inside, if they let themselves get out of shape and go a certain amount of time without trying to make their self image more satisfying to themselves. I've met girls that do nothing but mope around and say "I'm ugly and fat". And I finally just told them, "Complaining is part of realization, and that's the first step, the next step is doing something about it" If you're not going to do anything about it... Don't complain.
Right now for example, I'm not complaining nor am I sad, I'm just starting to believe that love is just some hyped up, unreachable feeling that is shrouded by superficiality and high standards.
I don't think I'm good looking... Don't get me wrong, I don't think I'm bad looking either, but what a girl looks for in a guy can be almost exactly opposite of what a guy looks for in a girl. Most girls look for a guy with a good future set up for himself, who has a funny personality and won't cheat. I am that guy, but I haven't found the girl looking for that, that I am looking for as well.
Another thing I can't stand, is when people tell me "Don't look for a girl, let her find you" HAHAHAHA, yeah like anyone's gonna get anywhere if they all sit around and wait for someone.
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