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I think it has to be a bit of both. A fantastic person can make someone appear more attractive, but conversely a bad personality can make someone 'ugly'.
That being said though, if you are to be with someone, they have to 'float your boat' in some way. I don't believe you can be with someone unless you can look at them and 'fancy' something about them.
I went out with a girl who I didn't find attractive, although to be fair many other people did. We got on so well - it was a pure attraction of personality. Problem was we became more like best friends or siblings, than lovers and thus it never went anywhere. We're still great mates though to this day.
It's irrelevant whether or not someone lives up to the classical idea of 'beauty' - what's more important is that you can find something beautiful and attractive about that person. But without that, from my experience, a proper relationship simply doesn't work.
- S
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