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These are interesting suggestions Makg, but you know, not everyone in this world is able to say to his inner self "I want to change, I have to start being positive". That's not how it works for some people. You can tell them there's nothing wrong with anything, that after all their life is good, but they won't get it. Not because they're stupid, but because some personal issues taught them it's false. They need help to start being positive as you say, but if anybody around them keep on repeating "You're weird, I don't understand you" or if they keep on ignoring them, how can they force themselves to change? Not anybody's strong enough for these things, you know. That's being different in this case. It means you're unable to face everything by yourself and say "I don't care about the others, I want to decide for myself" or "I want to be happy also if I feel I'm not accepted".
Everyone knows being positive is better, as anyone knows smoking is bad, but does this considerations change a thing? Nope, it's not that knowing something automatically means you'll be able to act in a certain way. And if you add that in some cases depression is a clinical status, you'll get that you can't heal yourself simply deciding you have to do it. It could be that meryl one day will find herself changed and she'll start to accept anything regarding her life, but what if this doesn't work? What idf she tries, failing? She'll find herself in the same situation. That's why you can't simply say "It's your fault, because you're negative". Negativity can't be erased like you said. She has to start being less worried about anything, I agree on that, but receiving the help of other people, is really important. I think that was what meryl was looking for here. And talking about it, feeling there's somebody around supporting you in difficulties, ready to give an helpful hand when needed is somehow starting being positive IMO.
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