[merylsilverburg]

Originally Posted by Meiko

I can't agree on one point though: I don't think she's lazy. I've known her for a long time, and she's not the kind of person who does that because of laziness. It's like with kleptomaniacs. It's not that they always want what they steal, or that they don't have money to buy it. It's an impulse they seem unable to control. The only big difference is she tries to justify her actions in an arrogant way, which is bothering.

Okay, I'm a bit confused now on what the real problem is. Because, from what you wrote, it seemed the problem you are having with your friend is that she steals from other people, not that she acts arrogantly to justify her behavior.

If you know her behavior isn't laziness and that her problem is simply an uncontrollable sort of disorder or some sort of psychological disorder, then why would you get so upset that she's denying stealing anything? If it's an actual disorder, then you should try to get her some help instead.

Or, if it's not an actual disorder, but the problem is that she continues to refute accusations on being in the wrong, then I don't see what the big problem is. If you and others continue to tell her or try to convince her that she's doing wrongs things but she continues to deny it, then there's no point in saying "I have a problem with my friend" because a person like this will always be like this because they will never admit it or they truly just don't *see* their issue or they really don't think anything is wrong. This will be something that you and her other friends will have to accept because you can't change persons like this no matter what...unless, I don't know, something insanely drastic happens that really makes her realize it.

And I was simply accusing her of being lazy because of what you wrote. It seems she is capable of coming up with ideas herself and she does acknowledge that she *does* steal but doesn't think she's wrong or won't admit it, so in my mind she appeared lazy. I wouldn't and couldn't know whether I was right or wrong because I'm not her friend.

Anyway, I had another idea: maybe you can try to get her back by stealing of the ideas she stole (example: if she stole an outfit idea from someone, maybe you can steal the outfit idea from her) but a plan like this might backfire since she probably won't get it or might think "Hey! Now you finally understand that stealing isn't wrong!"