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Originally Posted by merylsilverburg
However, there’s another side to the situation: perhaps it’s not identity issues but she’s just being normal. Yes, to those who are more down-to-earth, different personas can be cumbersome and stupid, but this is how normal people act. My sister, for example, is like this. With me, she’s just laidback, carefree, and quiet. With others, she’s either a) intelligent b) outgoing c) sweet and kind or e) loud and “young.” While I tear my hair out whenever she switches personas, this is considered normal because if you are with a certain group, you tend to act like people in the group. Another example: when I was working the front in my previous job, a very nice and quiet Japanese guy would come in by himself and he became a regular. He started making friends and one day he came in with his rambunctious buddies and BAM! He became loud and impatient and rather crude. A week later, he comes in by himself and it’s back to his quiet and meek ways. 
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I tend to act a little bit differently when with different people sometimes. I always just assumed it meant I was good at adapting to the situation. When I talk to somebody in a somewhat different way I might talk to another person, I believe it to be because I have the ability to learn what that person is like personality-wise and then talk to them in a way they most enjoy if I am truly interested in being that person's friend. Me and that friend then tend to be able to communicate better and cool things happen like we'll end up having a lot of inside jokes
What I am talking about might be different, though.
Back to the other thing...
As for that friend of yours, Meiko. I think Meryl is right about her being pretty lazy. I also think she is extremely manipulative and uses that for her own personal gain at the cost of others waaayyyy too much. I wouldn't trust a friend like that. She honestly can't find her own interests and stick with them, either? That's pretty sad. I just worry that someday this girl is going to go too far and you may get hurt Meiko. Don't remain friends with somebody just because they CAN be nice.
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