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It's good you feel like this now, it's good you don't want to waste time and chances, it's good you want to change your current status. Yes, it takes a lot of efforts, you must always keep what your goal is in mind, because it's very easy to come back to an apathetic status when you're used to it. I can relate a lot to your post. I am myself one of the persons who call themselves shy. But, I don't know if it's your case too, in my case the word "shy" contains at the same time words as "lazy", "avoidant", "diffident", "weak-willed". Those are the reasons I spent most of my teens and youth in the state you described in your post. Improving when you have no direction is almost impossible sometimes. I mean, you know you can't be that way forever but you are not able to kick your own butt and say to yourself you seriously should do something about it. Your motivations don't have to be all negative to succeed, IMO. You know, if you want to change you have to be the opposite of self-indulgent but very positive about things at the same time. If you keep on telling yourself "I must change because I don't want this and that" or "I don't want things to end this way", you're not really getting into the idea of an actual change. You'll just get scared and terrified by the possibility things won't be as you are expecting and hoping. You should tell yourself "I want to change because I want this and that" or "I want my life to be this way".
I'm not sure what I am saying makes any sense to you. But as a person who have experienced a similar state of mind, I know the best things come only when you stop having reasons to be terrified and you start working hard to make your intentions become tangible.
Good luck Chara!
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