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Originally Posted by Uchiha Sasuke

LOL!!! Wow! Good game peeps. And Faile bite me.

What's your problem, man? Meryl pointed out what I was going to: I remember that a long time ago you used to have many problems in reagrds of your love life, and you would come here to post about it an seek advice. Many members gave you the same advice: to forget it and move on. Yet within a few days or weeks, you would still come back to declare you were still stomped on the same situation. Did you forget this?

You say that we must learn from our mistakes, and well, while that sounds nice, this isn't the way it always happens. Nevertheless, I agree with you: we do need to learn from the things we do wrong in the past in order to avoid falling prey to the same things again in the future. However, you speak in a very condenscending manner. It seems to me that you "forgot" how stomped you were on your problems, despite people giving you the same advice. Maybe you have told Kaena what you think, but you have to understand that just like you, she too is "stuck" in this problem and that just like you, she will get over. But, also just like you, it takes time and more than one person to tell her. Furthermore, she needs her own self to convince herself of what she really wants.

You are getting riled up at the wrong persons, anyway.

Back to the topic: From past experieces, which have been oh, so sour, I can honestly sympathize with you, Kaena. There are times when you realize that you are wrong and that your behavior is inappropriate, yet you can't help it. I'm pretty sure that deep down inside of yourself, you know the answer.

All I can say is that it is quite easy to give advice when you are not actually in the situation, even if you have experienced something similar. Everyone has their own personality and ways to deal with things. Because of this, what X may do may seem ridiculous to Y. From what you have said, it seems to me that the relationship has been dead for a long time already. It seems that you are trying to cling onto something that was never yours to begin with. In relationships, there are bound to be difficult times, but you must be conscientious that in order to it to be a healthy one, the good times must outweigh the bad times by a significant number.

Don't try to fool yourself. Don't try to think that maybe if you stick around long enough, he will appreciate you and come to you and you will be ever so happy. This is not so. Don't sell yourself so short. Love can be a beautiful thing, but it can also go rotten. It is the one thing that has the potential to give and take life. You surely know this.

This doesn't even sound like a relationship to me. It merely sounds like this person is only going to you whenever he feels lonely. What's your gain from this? He gets comfort, but what about you? What about your needs and wants? Is he there for you? It sure doesn't seem that way.

In order for a relationship to work, both parties must work hard. They must join together in order to overcome the difficulties ahead and to indulge in the happiness afterwards. But how can this be if he seems to not want to? If he doesn't want to, then it means he doesn't want to.

It's hard to forget and move on. People toss that around like it's a remedy you can buy over the counter. I know it's hard, but I also know it's not impossible.

Ask yourself: Are you really willing to yourself in to something that has no foundation?

You can't build castles in the air. You can only dream and imagine them, but they are not real.

I hope you get through this. You desserve more than that. You desserve someone willing to love you and willing to be loved, all of the time.