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happy_doughnut · Jul 27th, 2005, 02:02 PM

I was speaking to a good friend of mine last night about my never-ending boy problems, and she said something that struck me:

"In a relationship, there is always one who takes advantage of the other."

Then, I remembered meryl once saying that there is always someone in a relationship that tries to excert more control over the other, than the other person.

And I was just thinking right now... are these things true?

Personally, I didn't really agree with what my friend said last night, but alas, I was too blue to argue. But really, I don't think that the term necessarily has to be "take advantage." I think that if you go into a relationship with that mindset-that either you are going to have to take advantage of the other or risk being the one taken advantage of-the relationship will certainly go nowhere fast.

I think it is more like meryl said. I agree that in a relationship, there usually is that more dominant someone. The one that is a bit or a lot more pushy, bossy, demanding, etc. However, I don't think that this means they are doing this to "take advantage," but because there is someone like that in every relationship, to a certain point.

I don't know. I simply don't think relationships are all about who's going to take advantage of who. I guess I just don't think all this "power" stuff should be all that important.

Personally, I know that I am a very docile person. I don't like to fight, argue, dispute... nothing. Heck, I don't even get angry much. I may get frustruated for a little while, but it passes within a few minutes; I'm just not the type of person to hold a grudge over days without end. I am the typical sit-there-and-take-it-until-the-other-person-calms-down-enough-to-have-a-civilized-converstation-about-it type of person.

I just am not confrontational at all. Some people say this is great because it shows I have a lot of patience, and other, like my aforemention friend, thinks it's just stupidity on my part. For her, I am the one that gets taken advantage of.

Who knows? Not I! Do you? What do you think? Do you think relationships are all about who exerts the most amount of power on the other? Where do you draw the line between being independent and able to speak up and being domineering? Where do you draw the line between being patient and logical and being a push-over and foolish?

Oh, relationships! Wonderful when they are working, distressing when they are not.

*mena goes back to being curled up in the fetal position while her life remains on hold.*

Jul 27th, 2005, 02:02 PM	#1
happy_doughnut just a rolling stone Joined: Apr 2002 Location: of what? Posts: 1,561	Hm. I was speaking to a good friend of mine last night about my never-ending boy problems, and she said something that struck me: "In a relationship, there is always one who takes advantage of the other." Then, I remembered meryl once saying that there is always someone in a relationship that tries to excert more control over the other, than the other person. And I was just thinking right now... are these things true? Personally, I didn't really agree with what my friend said last night, but alas, I was too blue to argue. But really, I don't think that the term necessarily has to be "take advantage." I think that if you go into a relationship with that mindset-that either you are going to have to take advantage of the other or risk being the one taken advantage of-the relationship will certainly go nowhere fast. I think it is more like meryl said. I agree that in a relationship, there usually is that more dominant someone. The one that is a bit or a lot more pushy, bossy, demanding, etc. However, I don't think that this means they are doing this to "take advantage," but because there is someone like that in every relationship, to a certain point. I don't know. I simply don't think relationships are all about who's going to take advantage of who. I guess I just don't think all this "power" stuff should be all that important. Personally, I know that I am a very docile person. I don't like to fight, argue, dispute... nothing. Heck, I don't even get angry much. I may get frustruated for a little while, but it passes within a few minutes; I'm just not the type of person to hold a grudge over days without end. I am the typical sit-there-and-take-it-until-the-other-person-calms-down-enough-to-have-a-civilized-converstation-about-it type of person. I just am not confrontational at all. Some people say this is great because it shows I have a lot of patience, and other, like my aforemention friend, thinks it's just stupidity on my part. For her, I am the one that gets taken advantage of. Who knows? Not I! Do you? What do you think? Do you think relationships are all about who exerts the most amount of power on the other? Where do you draw the line between being independent and able to speak up and being domineering? Where do you draw the line between being patient and logical and being a push-over and foolish? Oh, relationships! Wonderful when they are working, distressing when they are not. mena goes back to being curled up in the fetal position while her life remains on hold.