[merylsilverburg]

Originally Posted by happy_doughnut

You are blinded by this thing that is not yours and by the want to have it, that you lose vision of anything else. If one lives like this - chasing after the stars that belong to someone else, then you will never find your own because it may well pass you by... and you know what? You didn't even notice.

This is so true, but the sad thing is, many people desire the unattainable. People tend to want something that they can't have....and the temptation for it grows stronger and stronger everyday. Why? Because we know we can't have that item/person/whatever, so we want it even more. That's why people get themselves so stuck in a rut, as you said. This is understandable (that we desire what we can't have) but it honestly does do away with possibilities. Not only this, but a person can become insane this way...it's incredibly unhealthy, but it's human nature, unfortunately. Of course, people can change and try to let it go...so, hopefully, some people will one day realize that the person they lust for is not the right one.

Originally Posted by happy_doughnut

Look at this way: According to Biblical scriptures, God created Eve out of one of Adam's ribs. As a man, you are adam and you are looking for your "rib" - the female. But you see - not every rib will "fit." Some will be painful, some will fall out and some will simply not fit at all. When you find a rib that doesn't feel fully comfortable, then it is because it is not your rib - it is someone else's. That rib doesn't belong to you and no matter how much you want it, it does not fit you because it is not yours.

There is a rib for every male, and there is a male for every rib.

How freaky, I was gonna post the whole "Adam and Eve" thing too, but I didn't want to get into religious aspects since people might misunderstand me. Perfect wording, doughnut.