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Well, this is surprising. Everyone completely misundertood me. Thanks.


First off, I'd apologize to everyone who misunderstood, but I'm not going to.
However, I will elaborate on what I said/meant on my previous post:

I know there are double standards. I know this, and I dislike this. I think it wrong to, for example, throw a guy in jail for hitting his wife because it's "domestic abuse" and have a women praised for hitting a guy, because for them, it was "self defence." This, to me, is utterly ridiculous.

These double standards have been here since the beginning, and apparently will continue to live side by side with us for a long time to come. These doubles standards are just as hurtful for women as they as helpful, and vice versa for men.

However, I'm sorry, but I find those remarks disgusting and derragatory. Like meryl said, sure every now and then, hey, why make a big deal? Just brush it off. This is what I do: I hear this nonsense and roll my eyes or shake my head. Heck, sometimes I find it funny... when their usage of words is so horrid, one can't help but laugh. But sometimes, they cross the line. And I mean really cross the line. I know that yesterday was a rather bitter day for me, not only because of the offensive things that were said, but because of the fright that they gave me.

I know women do this, too. I know. Is it right? No, of course not. And those women mr. goodman was talking about, oh, I know those; sickly women they are. The only problem is that women tend to suffer more from this. Why? I don't know, maybe because that's just the way society has set things. Sad? Yes, very - for both sexes.

Oh, and Red: I'm sorry to hear that you are bitter. But to tell you the truth, reading your post was rather disappointing. Why? Because you are one of the few people that know me rather well, and it's sad to think that you would think me that shallow, when you well know that I'm not.

By "unwated," in no way whatsoever did I mean "unattractive." What I simply meant was strangers. To me, a stranger, whether beautiful or not, that goes off telling you all sorts of things that you don't want to hear because of the degrading things they say, is an "unwanted person"; it's hearing things from an "unwanted person." I mean, hell, who doesn't like to be flattered every now and then? I think just about everyone does. When flattered by someone you know, then, hey, no biggy, right? There's a difference between passing down a street and being looked and smiled at. I mean, why get offended by that? If you are thought to be pretty by the male/female looking at you, then hey, let them be.

However, it's when they cross the line - when the harrasing begins that makes me mad. And to tell the truth, when this happens to me - be it while I wait for my parents to pick me up from places, while I'm at the library getting a book, or walking home from school, and men go overboard, it frightens me. Red said men can't differentiate between the two, and if that's true, then how sad it is that you are that numb to others' feelings.

How can you NOT tell the difference between a casual comment of flattery and harrasment?

Why do women do this? I personally would not know, as I must be the least sexually enlightened person on this side of the world. Is it right? No way. Should they be called upon this rude behavior just as men do? Certainly.

And what does decency have to do with being "stupidly overly sentisitive?"
Maybe I'm one of those sensitive people, but I know plenty of others that aren't and they get just as offended by these overly rude remarks, if not more. Maybe not to some, but to others, these things, when they occur with little distance apart, are shameful.

So in essence, I was not only talking about women, but about a person in general. It just so happens that it a lot easier to identify this subject in correlation with women, be it fair or unfair.

That and because of what happened yesterday, I felt quite bad, and I was looking to see that you guys would understand, as that would have been comforting, but I guess not.

Whatever suits all of you is just fine.