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Originally Posted by Uchiha Sasuke

After a number of times that i've talked to her about relationships and stuff she seems to be almost to good for everyone but then denies that fact when she spells out what kinda of person she wants.

I don't know the situation or the girl but here are just my thoughts: with what she said above, she may feel that she's not capable for a relationship with anyone at the moment. It may seem like she's "too good" but that could be because the right guy hasn't come forward yet. I also think she may be picky about who she's attracted to/finds attractive. She may be wanting the "perfect guy", someone who matches up to her exact ideal type, that no one but that perfect guy will do. It may seem confusing, but from what I'm getting, she could be those type of people who desires perfection...which is why she is "too good" for everyone. Because she's perfect herself (in that sense).

Originally Posted by Uchiha Sasuke

She also then goes to complain on why she hates changing who she is for every bf she has. I tell her she needs someone that likes her for who she is.

She complains about changing herself for every b/f and what you said is right; she needs to find someone who likes her for who she is so she wouldn't have to disguise her real personality. What she may complaining for is because she's trying out these different relationships to see if the current guy will accept her. Later, she finds out he doesn't, so she changes in order to just "stay happy" till the relationship is over. Which is why she complains. <-- Not saying this is right on her part, but it's just my reason for her behavior.

Originally Posted by Uchiha Sasuke

But when I go to that I bring up some of my friends who love who she is, but she won't date them even though there great people. A couple of my friends would be great for her.

Once again, this attitude of hers probably goes to her whole "not attracted to them/not the one" thinking. It's true, Uchiha, that your buddies may be great dates/boyfriends since they accept her for who she is, but you cannot expect her to go out with them if she's not attracted to them or they're not her type. Sure, she wants a guy to accept her, but at the same time, she wants the right guy to accept her...not just anyone...even if they are your good friends.

Originally Posted by Uchiha Sasuke

Now I have a thing for her too, but it bothers me because no matter how well we get along and shit, the girl will never warm up to me the way she does others. It is really, really distressing and puts you in one hell of mood. I mean I've given her such solid advise and told her she is such a wonderful person and she should never have to change for anyone, but everytime I talk with her and try to get down to the root of something she seems so cold. And its tearing me up inside when shes like that. Even at the Halo party that I had this weekend she was the same way to me and warmed up to everyone else there .

She may not warm up to you only because, as the others said, you probably came off as "trying too hard" and this, in turn, could be more annoying than comforting. I can't say much because as I said, I don't know the situation, but she may seem cold only because she doesn't want anyone to get "too close" or "pride into her business". She may enjoy your company but she might not want someone to "nag" her constantly about which guy she wants/should go out with and whatnot. Yeah, she may complain, talk, chat about her relationship issues, but maybe she honestly doesn't dwell on it day after day after day. What I mean is, it doesn't bother her too much about these relationship problems she encounters...she talks about it, but doesn't consider it "her biggest crisis". Which may be why she seems cold or distant to you because if, as you said, constantly talked about her and all that, she may find it really aggravating. Her attitude may be "If I don't think about it so much, then why should you?"

Originally Posted by Uchiha Sasuke

Now because of this, I don't know if I should just stop seeing her or try to talk it out or what. Because I really like her, but then again a lot of times when I'm with her I end up hurting, then I kinda take it out others. I know CC and a couple of my other close friends can probably give a pretty good perpestive, but I also wanna here what the rest of you have to say.

Well, I don't think you should stop seeing her, but I think you should just step back and chill for a while. Eventually, she may warm up to you but the process might be slow. There may even more deeper reasons why she's not as friendly with you as others, but this isn't something I can anaylze without further information. Yeah, I know it sucks as hell to "back off" with the person you like (since, you want to be around them constantly ), but this is just something you have to do. If her attitude doesn't change even after you do this, the deeper reasons may be something you'll have to discover yourself one day while talking to her (but casually!).

Well, I guess my advice didn't help too much, but it's just what I think. Hope it helps a little though.

EDIT: And yes, it's a good idea not to ask her out! If she's not exactly on "friendly, comfortable" terms with you to begin with, asking her out might kill the friendship you already have (as meager as it may seem). Just be patient and see her reaction and attitude after you back off for a while.