[goodman]

Ive been on Match.com off and on (now off) for three years. Personally, i say no, but thats me, others obviously have, but where it goes from there for them, God only knows. Im not the average 45 year old person. Most people my age have been married at least once (usually twice), have a few kids at home, a mortgage, a busy job, tremendous pressures from all over the place, and are juggling several things at one time. Due to the circumstances, its difficult meeting someone who has the freedom or desire to find the freedom, to share the time, or the experiences, with me that i have available... So, in all honesty, the internet isnt really the question so much as it is the person. Personals have been around forever in various forms, and ive been involved with them through one form or another since 1989. Ever since i was a teen ive listened to women and men who have had personal turmoil through their relationships, and ive always tried to detect and see where i may have a problem with a person, so that i may avoid the mistakes that so many seem to make, and continue to make.... While that can lead to a somewhat less risk taking stance in regards to the direction and amount of relationships i seek, i figure in the long run i will meet the person i am much more likely to have a successful relationship with. There is no question in my mind, and i bet a few on this board, that if a person holds out (while sampling some of the desserts along the way...) and doesnt marry out of insecurity or some other reason that will fade, they will be much happier, even if they have to spend time alone, or in contemplation, of finding the person that is truely meant for them... Along the way, finding good friends, meeting nice people, having intelligent conversations, realizing that life doesnt revolve around you, but happiness shines through you, then you will find that you dont have to be concerned or worried about meeting someone, just being yourself, and the best representation you can be of yourself, that you leave a good feeling in people when they are around you... This is a simple truth, the more your able to spread cheer through your own personal happiness, the more people will seek your enthusiasm and appreciate it, whenever the chance occurs... Ive made the comment, and still feel its true, that happiness isnt through another person, or their company, its through you, and the love and joy that you seek in your life. Others receive that as a gift from you, its not something that happens by accident. In all honesty, so few people have this gift, that no, its not easy meeting a person on the internet, or through a singles program, because were not meant to just be with anybody or any situation, if we have our life set up for happiness, integrity, and security, only that rare person who shares the same abilities you have will fulfill your ambitions, your needs, and your desires...