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Rei · Sep 30th, 2003, 09:50 AM

Jealousy most of the times is a very irrational feeling and very destructive. I don't know if it's you who are jealous or another person, so I'll refer to you in any case, even if it's not you to have this problem, ok? You must focus on the problem, trying to be 100% rational and ask yourself "Why am I jealous? What is that worries me so much? Am I afraid of something so I react in this way because of them or do I have reasons to be jealous?" etc... You need to try to analyze the causes of jealousy whether their real or not, and after that you must think about what you can do, what means you can use to solve the problem if it's real. Being paranoid is the first step you take when you don't ask yourself too many questions or when you don't have a clear vision, I suppose. But if you know you're paranoid it means you partly know the problem is not real, at least not completely, and that it's only inside your head. That's why you have to reflect more on it, to find out the causes. I think a deep self-analysis is a good point to start, but asking for partner's support is also a good idea. It's easier to be objective when you ask for the other's person help, especially considering in many cases the other person is involved as well in this problem and that your relationship is being ruined by it. If on the other hand you see your partner is jealous, it's good to force him/her to talk about it, to explain. Offer your interest and support without the other person's request, ask to talk about it more.

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Sep 30th, 2003, 09:50 AM	#2
Rei EVA 00 Pilot Joined: Jan 2002 Location: NERV Age: 41 Posts: 2,239	Jealousy most of the times is a very irrational feeling and very destructive. I don't know if it's you who are jealous or another person, so I'll refer to you in any case, even if it's not you to have this problem, ok? You must focus on the problem, trying to be 100% rational and ask yourself "Why am I jealous? What is that worries me so much? Am I afraid of something so I react in this way because of them or do I have reasons to be jealous?" etc... You need to try to analyze the causes of jealousy whether their real or not, and after that you must think about what you can do, what means you can use to solve the problem if it's real. Being paranoid is the first step you take when you don't ask yourself too many questions or when you don't have a clear vision, I suppose. But if you know you're paranoid it means you partly know the problem is not real, at least not completely, and that it's only inside your head. That's why you have to reflect more on it, to find out the causes. I think a deep self-analysis is a good point to start, but asking for partner's support is also a good idea. It's easier to be objective when you ask for the other's person help, especially considering in many cases the other person is involved as well in this problem and that your relationship is being ruined by it. If on the other hand you see your partner is jealous, it's good to force him/her to talk about it, to explain. Offer your interest and support without the other person's request, ask to talk about it more.