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Hylas · Aug 6th, 2003, 08:26 PM

There have been many debates and still this seems a problem without solutions, maybe because both options are equally valid.

Better being over appearing or appearing over being? Which is your choice?

Common sense tells you being is good while appearing is wrong, but I think only hypocrites can say it without further and logical explanations for this position. The fact is: whoever says appearing is more important is labeled as vain or completely stupid. I don't think appearance is a completely seconday matter, especially nowadays. Appearance is what makes you feel you may like a person or not, and it influences a lot relations. Deciding you want to be appreciated and accepted is crucial, mainly because if society is superficial, you are told you have to act in a certain way to find your proper place. And besides, where does appearing end and being start? It is not so clear.

Aug 6th, 2003, 08:26 PM	#1
Hylas Now or Never Joined: Jan 2002 Location: Zürich Age: 42 Posts: 2,456	Being rather than appearing? There have been many debates and still this seems a problem without solutions, maybe because both options are equally valid. Better being over appearing or appearing over being? Which is your choice? Common sense tells you being is good while appearing is wrong, but I think only hypocrites can say it without further and logical explanations for this position. The fact is: whoever says appearing is more important is labeled as vain or completely stupid. I don't think appearance is a completely seconday matter, especially nowadays. Appearance is what makes you feel you may like a person or not, and it influences a lot relations. Deciding you want to be appreciated and accepted is crucial, mainly because if society is superficial, you are told you have to act in a certain way to find your proper place. And besides, where does appearing end and being start? It is not so clear.

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